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Asking questions like that shows a lack of good manners and social grace. They answer vaguely because they have good manners and social grace.
If you need help in this way, ask a close family member or counselor for help. Don't put friends or work associate on the spot in this way. If you think you are being annoying, you most likely are and should stop it.
OP I am the type of person who would try not to hurt your feelings. If you kept this up on a regular basis I would try to avoid you. If I was not able to avoid you I am afraid I might tell you you were being annoying with these constant questions. I do think it is rude to ask people these questions.
For example I have asked people the following questions before in relation to the question I am asking now in the forum;
Do you Dislike/Hate me?
Do you think I am too fat?
Do you think I am annoying?
among others but these are just some starters about what I ask people on a daily basis,
every time I ask these questions among others of course I get back the same bull**** response that I am a lovely person etc, etc.
Whats up with this?
wheres the honesty and truthfulness.
I have Autism, it pisses me off.
I suspect people hate me, think I am fat and find me annoying but won't be honest about it!
what would you do? would you be honest? please add in to the debate?
OK, since you ask again, I’ll tell you the truth.
You are one fat, annoying, jerk that pisses me off for asking moronic questions. However, I don’t hate you, but I hate being around you.
For example I have asked people the following questions before in relation to the question I am asking now in the forum;
Do you Dislike/Hate me?
Do you think I am too fat?
Do you think I am annoying?
among others but these are just some starters about what I ask people on a daily basis,
every time I ask these questions among others of course I get back the same bull**** response that I am a lovely person etc, etc.
Whats up with this?
wheres the honesty and truthfulness.
I have Autism, it pisses me off.
I suspect people hate me, think I am fat and find me annoying but won't be honest about it!
what would you do? would you be honest? please add in to the debate?
Wow, how exhausting knowing you must be. People who do not know you well do not want to criticize you. They don't know what reaction you will have. They don't want to witness a meltdown.
Have you had life skills coaching? If not, you need to find it because you can't get along with people if you demand they criticize you and when they refuse, you become really angry.
Here's the thing: you can't make people act differently toward you. You can't force them to do anything. The only person you have control over is yourself.
I do agree that it would not be very good to be asking these questions on a daily basis. It doesn't really serve a benefit for them to tell you that they don't like you in this sense.
However I do understand your frustration about there being a lack of honesty in this society. It makes no sense to me because as I said before I want an employer to tell me why they didn't like me/why they didn't think I'm good. Maybe it will solve nothing but maybe not. It could be something I could change your mind about because when you lie to me you are missing out on a hard worker. They will often give you an auto email that you just simply weren't qualified enough. What am I supposed to do with that?
I also can't stand it when someone pretends/makes a strong case that they really do like me when I know damn well they don't. I caught my coach with this and they kept trying to tell me that they liked me. They could have directed me to someone else who would have meshed with me better but no this witch kept trying to work with me and telling me she wants me to succeed when she didn't care.
It doesn't matter at ALL what other people think of you. What do YOU think of you. I do nice things for people all the time. I have to run home today and am missing a luncheon that I bought a ticket for. I gave the ticket to a coworker for free and said "lunch is on me, enjoy". He said "I'll get you the money" and I said, "Forget about it, it's a gift, enjoy".
My wife often says to me "You're a really nice guy". Guess what, I AM ! I do lots of nice things for people because I enjoy it. I'm also about 20 lbs overweight so I don't have to ask people if I"m fat. I also know what Brad Pitt and George Clooney look like so I don't have to wonder if I"m good looking.
Do your own reality check. It's not that hard and it really doesn't matter one bit that I"m not as good looking as someone else, I'm loving my life and enjoying every minute. Relax and enjoy the ride ! Now time to play with the dogs.
You're not going to believe this. So yesterday I gave my luncheon ticket to my coworker. He ends up winning $50 in the raffle with my ticket and brings in donuts for everyone today. WIN !! Karma is fun !
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If I was not able to avoid you I am afraid I might tell you you were being annoying with these constant questions.
I do think it is rude to ask people these questions.
