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I am sick of beautiful women. I work with a lot of them and they are all stuck up and low on information. They perceive all guys having weakness towards their looks except for gays and they think looks can buy them anything. A conversation with a pretty woman is usually rather boring being they have very limited conversational topics.
Much rather find a smart woman that requires you to win their heart with humor and intelligence.
So, lets get this straight - you're annoyed that "they perceive all guys having weaknesses towards their looks" and apparently they shouldn't generalize like that. But that's why you believe "they are all stuck up and low on information" while being "rather boring being they have very limited conversational topics."
True, but looks seem to fall a bit lower on their list of priorities than with men. What I notice is that at my gym, the really well built men are often checked out by other guys more than they are by women. Granted, I know a lot of gay, or bi-curious guys work out, and are into muscle, but it seems big muscle is not necessarily a priority most women care about to see in a man.
haha yeah! i called this the "in their shoes fallacy". Women are obsessed with fashion trends when men don't care if what women are wearing are trendy or not, so long as it shows off their feminine curves. Likewise, women want fitness in their mates, but that reaches a point of diminishing returns very soon, and any indicators of additional time spent in the gym to build muscle instead of in the office to climb the corporate ladder is a turn off (men with huge muscles instead of just a bit of muscle that indicate overall good health and fitness).
Because I am more then just my looks. My looks caught his interest, my personality made him want to stay, and that will endure as I turn into a shriveled up old lady.
when you're a shriveled up old lady, another women will catch his eyes, and her personality will make him want to stay until the net benefits of staying with that old lady outweighs her aged looks.
when you're a shriveled up old lady, another women will catch his eyes, and her personality will make him want to stay until the net benefits of staying with that old lady outweighs her aged looks.
That guys care most about physical beauty is indisputable (consistent with both evolutionary theory and many studies). So, ladies, unless there's $$$$$$$$ in it (in which it'd be business and fair game), why even pursue romantic relationships, in which guys care most about your physical beauty, which would inevitably fade and which would inevitably be beaten by a more beautiful woman (no matter how beautiful you are)? Plus, even if we lived in a Peter Pan world where women stay looking aged 20 forever, it's just so superficial and pointless. Is it not better to stay single forever, where we don't have to worry about the men we are attached to leaving us or fantasizing about leaving us for more beautiful women? This wasn't an option for women just a century ago, but today it is.
I totally get why you'd feel this way but there are, in fact, a lot of men out there who aren't all about looks. A good way to sift out those guys is to listen for the key phrases like:
* 'I think a woman should be classy and have self respect'
* 'I think women should put effort into taking care of themselves'
Those are red-flag indicators for looks-focused men. Now here's some random internet opinion.
If you want a quality guy for the long term, having a bit of substance is much more important. If you read quality books, keep yourself informed, have interesting and educated opinions (that you're willing to revise in the face of evidence), have a warm, tolerant and forgiving personality and are willing to compromise and work as a team, then you'll keep any high-quality man. Curiosity about the world and ideas helps, too. As does knowing what you want and being willing to both articulate it and work towards making it happen. (If you and your man want incompatible things then you're best off going seperate ways as soon as possible.)
On the other hand, say you couldn't be bothered with any of that rubbish. You just want to maximize your own happiness, chase status via your husband (like, say, badgering him to get promoted), get your fashionable clothes paid for and demand your man be a well-behaved example of what you expect a man to be. You want to fill the romance-novel-stud-shaped hole in your soul, like Bridget Jones or whatever vacuous rom-com heroine does. Then sure, even if you manage to snag a man who meets your standards, you're going to be dumped unless you stay young and hot.
Now should you ignore your femininity? No. Most heterosexual males like feminine women. More floaty dresses, less butch lesbian or crazy cat lady. But past a certain minimum, it's what's on the inside that counts.
I rather enjoyed typing all that. Made me feel young again.
Love hearing guys say stuff like this, if more people around me were the same as you (even though we as men know most men lie about this stuff just to say what they think women want to hear) then all those cuties you pass up on for lacking substance, I won't pass up on and will add to my count, because some of us men aren't afraid or ashamed to allow ourselves to be driven by our genetic missions, our carnal pleasures, our selfish sexual endeavors.
As much as I have disdain for the embracing of the white knights, betas, and cucks, I have to tip my cap at the same time for all of these otherwise would-be competitors, freeing up the market and leaving the herd for the rest of us alphas to do with as we wish.
Holy smokes, are you for real? Sounds like you and the OP are made for each other. Enjoy your cuties, brother.
Holy smokes, are you for real? Sounds like you and the OP are made for each other. Enjoy your cuties, brother.
It's all good. Allthegoodusernamesweretaken had earlier complained about not being able to land a date. No, OP (me) and allthegoodusernamesweretaken are not made for each other (makes no logical sense). Rather, he proves the point of my OP. BUT both you and allthegoodusernamesweretaken can't do simple reasoning and logic, so in that regard you two were made for each other.
the george clooney effect. In other words, [high-value a.k.a wealthy] men are real estate, and women are cars.
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