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No, I don't post when I'm in a bad mood, and I don't provoke people or make controversial posts. I have had a few people be rude to me for no apparent reason, but thankfully that is a rare occurrence.
I try to steer clear of those people who seemingly come on here to try to feel better about themselves by insulting strangers on the internet. That works most of the time, but you still never know when some crank will see a random post you've made and then decide to be snarky to you and/or give you some kind of goofy and uncalled for amateur psych evaluation.
That is a very common human condition, to tear others down to build yourself up. Many are tempted but thankfully most are successful in resisting the temptation. In the end it is never a successful strategy. All it ever achieves is to make the snarker look like a jerk.
Your refusal to report anyone certainly bespeaks a kind, tolerant, and generous attitude toward fellow posters.
Thank you for saying that. I was just involved in a small spat that had all our posts removed and one of the people sort of getting down on me was someone I really admire and respect. I still do, so, no, there's no way I'm going to report her. In past threads I've learned a lot from her and I don't like to see people with posts like hers "silenced" just because I couldn't take a little jabbing.
In another case, someone who had debated with me very spiritedly agreed with me on something else. Even though we strongly disagreed with each other on the previous topic, she was in no way mean or anything but good-natured and cordial to me when we found out we agreed on another subject.
That's why I try not to get mad at anyone here. I figure I never know - I may run into them in another thread and we may end up being best friends. And besides, getting mad at someone's opinion is one thing, but getting mad at the poster is something else. Everyone is entitled to an opinion.
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In almost seven years here and over 12,000 posts, I've had five infractions, most recently about 14 months ago.
I would define it as an official warning which becomes part of our permanent record here. Only moderators and the individual can see that record. (For example, you cannot see my infractions.) The infractions carry different point values, depending on their seriousness. A cause, or reason, is always given: e.g., "hi-jacking a thread" or "personal attack". If someone gets too many infractions, he or she can get a temporary ban from posting. The posters I know who have shared about their temporary bans via direct messages usually have had bans lasting a week or two. One can get banned permanently too! City-Data takes an especially dim view of people having two accounts at once.
Sometimes one can guess about someone else's temporary ban. If a habitually nasty person who normally posts prolifically all of a sudden completely stops posting for 10 days, a temporary ban would be a reasonable conclusion as to the cause. Of course there are other possible explanations, such as hospitalization, travel, or simply a decision to take a break.
Not every single incident in which a post is edited or deleted by a moderator necessarily results in an infraction. It depends on the seriousness of what was said and the previous record of that poster.
You are obviously very well behaved if you don't know anything about this stuff!
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I see no point in making snarky or mean-spirited comments on a message board for the same reason that I am nice to people when I call them for business. They are human beings on the other side of the phone or the computer and don't deserve to be the target of my bad mood. I have a personal journal where I can unload all I want and it works fine.
I would define it as an official warning which becomes part of our permanent record here. Only moderators and the individual can see that record. (For example, you cannot see my infractions.) The infractions carry different point values, depending on their seriousness. A cause, or reason, is always given: e.g., "hi-jacking a thread" or "personal attack". If someone gets too many infractions, he or she can get a temporary ban from posting. The posters I know who have shared about their temporary bans via direct messages usually have had bans lasting a week or two. One can get banned permanently too! City-Data takes an especially dim view of people having two accounts at once.
Sometimes one can guess about someone else's temporary ban. If a habitually nasty person who normally posts prolifically all of a sudden completely stops posting for 10 days, a temporary ban would be a reasonable conclusion as to the cause. Of course there are other possible explanations, such as hospitalization, travel, or simply a decision to take a break.
Not every single incident in which a post is edited or deleted by a moderator necessarily results in an infraction. It depends on the seriousness of what was said and the previous record of that poster.
You are obviously very well behaved if you don't know anything about this stuff!
Thank you for your answer. I have had some posts deleted but as I said, I take that as a message that I need to do better.
Thank you for your answer. I have had some posts deleted but as I said, I take that as a message that I need to do better.
Perhaps, but not necessarily. Here is an example:
Someone posts a nasty, rude comment, perhaps a personal attack or perhaps not. You answer, but with complete civility and courtesy. Then someone reports the nasty, rude comment to which you responded and it is taken down (deleted). That leaves your post "orphaned"; it doesn't make any sense anymore because the statement you answered is no longer there. Your "orphaned" post will normally be deleted by the moderator also, but it doesn't mean you have done anything at all wrong.
Or, if things have already gone badly downhill, there will sometimes be a "mass delete" where an entire conversation gets removed, including some posts which aren't really that bad. It's just that the moderators do not have infinite time to sort through everything and even if they did have, so many of the posts would be orphaned and would have to be deleted anyway.
Escort Rider verily speaketh the truth. A post gets deleted for an infraction, management has to delete any posts that quoted the deleted post too. You'll get a nasty-gram if you did anything wrong.
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