Better off without someone

[AhRainess]

Yes, I feel that way just about everyone who has left me. Not all the time, but sometimes I feel that about everyone who left. I don't know if it's because I'm trying to find a reason to move on or not to miss them as much, but there are definitely some that I'm thankful for leaving me when I didn't see the reasons then.

[matisse12]

Originally Posted by tassity22

Has he become involved with someone else, a new friend perhaps?

I've had men friends before and once they get into a relationship, they would tell me it was time to back off. That their girlfriend wasn't okay with them having women friends.

No, he is not in a relationship. And he has not told me to back off.

[CatwomanofV]

Yup!



Cat

[brocco]

I thought so but I figured out it was me

[tidaldream]

Originally Posted by tassity22

Has anyone else ever felt relieved and grateful that a person was not in your life anymore, when you had previously felt disturbed over their absence. And after a lot of reflection and introspection, you realize you are eternally grateful they are not part of your life?

OMG tassity, I can't beleive your words!! I was just thinking that thought, and when I saw your post it was rather amazing!

I had a friend my husband called a "mooch". She was always asking for absurd things like:

If I leave my husband can I come and live with you?

or

I have a lot of things in storage, how about letting me put them in your garage instead?

or

Will you let my husband stay with you for the weekend so I can have a weekend to myself

(..her husband was mean spirited and quite boorish)
I had known her for such a long time it seemed unfathomable to ever end the relationship, but her neediness became unbearable, and unhealthy for the sanctity of my marriage. My priorities to my husband, a good and supportive man, comes first. I had to show her to the door.

I haven't spoken to her in 4 years after being friends for four decades, and I was just thinking about her through force of habit.. because her birthday was yesterday.

I think people become a habit, and we are fearful of moving on.

I taught myself to let go, and I do reflect and recognize I have emancipated myself.

I have no other friends that ask me for such weighty favors, but instead I have felt an intrisic benevolence to people who love me for me.