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They are upset because their lives suck and they either don't know what to do to fix the problem, or won't discipline themselves and do whatever it takes. To be fair, some people get themselves into situations that have no solution. Their lives permanently suck.
So they are upset all the time and they take it out on everybody around them. Perhaps they blame other people because they can't admit they caused their problems themselves.
But we have a way to fix their problems. We stay away from them!
Bingo.
I will also add - some perpetually upset people seem to get an adrenaline rush or a kind of perverse enjoyment out of it - it's what fires them up. I have a relative like this. Avoidance is the best strategy, since there will always be SOMETHING they are in a twist about.
I will also add - some perpetually upset people seem to get an adrenaline rush or a kind of perverse enjoyment out of it - it's what fires them up. I have a relative like this. Avoidance is the best strategy, since there will always be SOMETHING they are in a twist about.
Thanks, Indy. You're right, some people seem to get a rush out of the drama. Their lives suck so they make things even by trying to make our lives suck too. They feed on the pain they cause. They enjoy being nasty people.
But as we agreed, we can avoid them, and furthermore we can take our consolation that we are good people and they are not. Being the way they are is its own punishment.
I hate those business phone routing systems that tell you to enter your account number, credit card number, birthdate, access code as well as the birthdates of every relative you have before the system routes you to the person you need. Then the first thing that person does is ask you for all the information you just gave.
I do try to keep negative people out of my life and affairs, but one can't help but run into them in life from time to time. Like a neighbor, who is just there and not much I can do about that. Other than move, which eventually I will. But there isn't any guarantee on what sort of neighbors I'll have at my next residence either. Just part of life.
So yes, avoid 'em, and also, try not to let their negative vibes stress me.
Another annoying neighbor that I have, walks around the sidewalks between his apartment and the parking lot, every couple of seconds he has to loudly hawk and spit. This is bad enough, out in public on a public sidewalk (but one yanno, where kids play and stuff, so ew)... But when I lived with my ex, he smoked out in the garage, and would spit nasty filth all over the garage floor. I was constantly paranoid about it being tracked in all over the house. Gross.
You know what is even worse than landscaping crews using leaf blowers?
Having a neighbor who IS a landscaper, who owns his own personal leaf blower, and enjoys using it to keep his patio free from dust.
One day I was home and he was going crazy with his leaf blower. I had a raging migraine- an actual migraine, not just a bad headache I am calling a migraine- and the sound felt like jackhammers in my head. I put in my custom-made ear plugs, went into the bathroom, shut the door, turned on the fan, turned on the shower, and I could STILL hear the darn thing outside.
People who bring politics into every discussion they have. I can't imagine them being the most pleasant of company to keep.
I agree with that. The Psychology section of C-D is no place to post politically charged comments.
There was no need to bring up the subject of immigration status when those complaints are equally relevant to all screaming children issues and parents who won't control them, and not just those of immigrants.
They just sat a new guy at work next to me, a mere few feet away. The annoyance is that he is a very loud breather. I don't know if he's got a cold or respiratory issues or if he's just like this, but he breathes audibly and every few seconds he heaves this big loud sigh. Don't know why but it is a bit annoying. Feel like I'm being oversensitive though maybe.
Back before all the anti-smoking regulations were passed it was legal to smoke at work as long as the employer didn't mind. I was working for a small company and all the engineers (4-5 of us) worked in one moderate sized room. The guy who had the desk next to me was a chain smoker and I had quit smoking maybe 5-10 years earlier. The employer didn't mind and my job was sort of "iffy" so all I could do was try to breathe in a different direction when he lit up.
I am so glad they've passed so many anti-smoking regulations! Those who are younger and don't smoke have no idea how bad it was for non-smokers a few decades ago.
The one remaining regulation we need is to set a minimum distance from entrances/exits of buildings before outdoor smoking is allowed, maybe 30 feet.
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