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Old 06-01-2017, 07:31 AM
 
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That works!

OK, well, maybe not.
There are quite a few people out there who will continue to act like jerks if allowed to do so. Many of them are not moved to change this aspect of their character without some sort of strong motivation.
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Old 06-01-2017, 07:57 AM
 
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I would add, always be polite to this person, and be as kind as you can manage. Maybe once in a blue moon, even give her a little something. Like "Hey, I heard Milky Ways are your favorite candy bar, so when I saw this, I thought of you." Smile and put it on her desk.


Who knows, maybe she'll come to appreciate your kindness...but human nature being what it is, probably not. BUT other people will notice. They'll see that you're always positive and kind, and THAT person is always bitter and negative.


I speak from experience. Take the high road when you can. It can be hard at times, like REALLY hard, but in the long run, people will notice.
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Old 06-01-2017, 08:13 AM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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Ignore them!!
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Old 06-01-2017, 08:20 AM
 
Location: Spaniard living in Slovakia
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While I appreciate all your comments and may work sometimes, try to imagine an extreme case that actually exists: what if this individual go further and permanently disrespects you with mild insults: "you are useless", "where did you study? Are you really x professional?", "what are you doing here if you even don't know...?", "you are doing x very poorly"

And what if that individual is trying to de-motivate/humiliate you constantly? It's not happening to me right now but may happens at least once.
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Old 06-01-2017, 08:48 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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I agree, Ignore them..even here on C-D there are plenty.
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Old 06-01-2017, 08:54 AM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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While I appreciate all your comments and may work sometimes, try to imagine an extreme case that actually exists: what if this individual go further and permanently disrespects you with mild insults: "you are useless", "where did you study? Are you really x professional?", "what are you doing here if you even don't know...?", "you are doing x very poorly"

And what if that individual is trying to de-motivate/humiliate you constantly? It's not happening to me right now but may happens at least once.
Why not stand your ground and give it back?

If it's at work it depends on the sector and industry you're in, I'm in construction and yes you get many like ^^^^ so you have to be able to look after yourself and fist fights unfortunately are the only way to handle it at times or at least a screaming match ( you won't necessarily lose your job. )

In an office then definitely stand your ground and raise it by making them feel and inch small and even more insecure than they already are.

It's like with any bullies mate if you show you're not intimidated and you can give as good as you get then they'll leave you alone.
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Old 06-01-2017, 08:56 AM
 
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While I appreciate all your comments and may work sometimes, try to imagine an extreme case that actually exists: what if this individual go further and permanently disrespects you with mild insults: "you are useless", "where did you study? Are you really x professional?", "what are you doing here if you even don't know...?", "you are doing x very poorly"

And what if that individual is trying to de-motivate/humiliate you constantly? It's not happening to me right now but may happens at least once.


Then go to your HR dept. and report that your co-worker is harassing you. And if it DOES come to that, then document what was said, any witnesses, and the time and date it happened, to show it was a pattern.
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Old 06-01-2017, 09:29 AM
 
Location: Spaniard living in Slovakia
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Then go to your HR dept. and report that your co-worker is harassing you. And if it DOES come to that, then document what was said, any witnesses, and the time and date it happened, to show it was a pattern.
Those things that are so common at work can also be common in other situations. I don't know how professors are in the US but I remember really bad attitude comming from some professors at university when I studied.

This guy can say this to you at your face on spot: "You will not pass my exam even studying all day, all night (laughter)", Electric Engineering and Circuits Professor.

This other guy said that on spot while we were solving a problem, not in a exam: "You don't have a f**ing idea on how to solve this problem". Chemical Engineering Reaction Professor. What? How can a Professor say that to 30 students in a class like any other?

No, my years in university weren't sometimes much fun at all.
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Old 06-01-2017, 11:20 AM
 
Location: Chicago area
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There's not much you can do about rectums. You'll run into them your entire life. The only thing you can do is try to remain on the high road and deal with them in a way that you would want to be dealt with. Be prepared to fail as well. There are times when calling someone a rectum to their face and eviscerating them with words just feels so damn right.
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Old 06-01-2017, 12:48 PM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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Kill them with kindness. It will drive them nuts.
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