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For me it is nature. I grew up in a friendly and engaging family, but we all had our independent streaks as well. Then growing up I had lots of friends, though usually a tight crew of 2-3 that I did most of my socializing with, all the way through college, but I was always the first one to dip out after a couple hours because people are exhausting and frankly, hanging out gets boring after a while. My favorite social activity is hiking because it is like being alone with people :-)
But I can't say any life experiences pushed me away from the type of obsessive socializing that most people enjoy. I actually enjoy it too, but only a few hours a week, not 4-6 hours a day, 7 days a week.
What ever reasons are behind why some prefer less socializing than others doesn't require dissection because we are all unique.
Should people be asking why some can't stand to be by themselves and constantly seek companionship?
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Is it nature or nurture or both?? Whats causes people to want to remain alone without friends?
Dislike of the human race.
I have good social skills, am a CPA who deals with clients, can talk to people and they think I am an outgoing person. I'm actually an anti-social introvert and I prefer to be alone. I wasn't this way growing up because I was too busy being a kid, which was a good thing. But as I entered the real world post college, I just found much more comfort without people.
I have good social skills, am a CPA who deals with clients, can talk to people and they think I am an outgoing person. I'm actually an anti-social introvert and I prefer to be alone. I wasn't this way growing up because I was too busy being a kid, which was a good thing. But as I entered the real world post college, I just found much more comfort without people.
I am an introvert but I love the human race.
I just don't need, nor want, to be around people all the time.
Not having the social skills to deal with others.
Being burned or hurt by so called friends.
Some are comfortable being on their own and enjoy their own company.
For me, it's the last two. I get my socialization from people I meet everyday and at work. Just this morning I went paddle boarding by myself, and met some nice people. Tomorrow I'm leaving for a two day road trip by myself. I'm looking forward to being on the road and listening to my music.
I agree with you. I too get my socialization through work. Sometimes, I just want to have some down time by myself.
I am an introvert who had a mom who was an extrovert. I married an extrovert. I get worn out when I am forced into drawn out social interactions. If it's with someone I genuinely like, I have no problem, but making me hang out with people I don't really care about or worse, people I actively dislike, and I am done in a very short time. I personally would rather just avoid people in general than be forced to interact with people I don't like.
I love and have always loved animals. They are "real". They don't lie, you can read exactly what their feelings are and there is never a question of whether they like you or not. People play games. I don't have patience for games. If you are honest and up front, I will most likely really like you, thought it takes me a while to process whether I do or not.
It's taken me years to understand my personality. Now that I do, I don't worry about how other people perceive me. As an introvert, I used to worry that other people would judge me. Not anymore. I am who I am and I accept myself. That's what matters.
I have good social skills, am a CPA who deals with clients, can talk to people and they think I am an outgoing person. I'm actually an anti-social introvert and I prefer to be alone. I wasn't this way growing up because I was too busy being a kid, which was a good thing. But as I entered the real world post college, I just found much more comfort without people.
Minus the dislike of the human race and being a CPA, I am pretty much like this.
I like people, I can take them in small doses. Yes, people at my work think I am an outgoing person
I am good at my job, I take care and talk to Customers all day long. (I often disappear on my breaks to get my alone/quiet time.) After being "on" for eight hours I am exhausted and do not need any more social interaction. I try every so often to do a day trip with someone and after an hour of "talking" I am done and wish I had not planned the outing.
I often wonder what is "wrong" with me. I see other people enjoying getting together with a bunch of people and sitting around. I am always bored with that situation.
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