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disclaimer: I am a black male that is looking for specific responses from other black males. ALL opinions and comments are welcomed but I feel like another brother would shed some light into this.
Hey all! For the past couple of years, I feel like black women are starring at me. (sorry if i posted this in the wrong forum. I had no idea where to post this)
Last week, I was conversing with my friend and had my head turned to their direction. One of my friends quietly pointed out to me that this black girl was starring me down hard as she was walking out the door. About time I had a chance to look at her, it was too late, she had already passed me. I had no idea why she was starring at me for so long.
And today, I was driving and I passed by two black girls. (I would say they were in their late teens) As I drove passed them, one of them starred at me before I passed them and turned her head at me after i passed them. (I saw her starring at me in my rear view mirror)
I don't really get starred down by black males too much nor other women from different ethnicities. (although there were a few who have once in a while) I wouldn't consider myself good looking at all. But I'm starting to feel subconscious because maybe the way I carry myself doesn't "mesh well with the black community" In other words, those looks I get are from disapproval.
Even though anyone can jump in and feel free to give me their opinion, I am really curious from other black males or females if this has happened to them OR if they are guilty of starring at other black folks. And I'm not talking about looking at someone for a second, but actual starring for 3 or more seconds.
I know this is probably petty but I'm very curious as to why this is happening. I'm asking my black friends as we speak but any opinions on here are welcomed.
I've seen other women stare at my dates. I think they find them attractive. It doesn't have to do with race. I date across the board, and black, white, brown, if they look good they get attention.
You're probably a handsome guy, who takes care of himself and females take notice. They're probably hoping you'll come talk to them.
disclaimer: I am a black male that is looking for specific responses from other black males. ALL opinions and comments are welcomed but I feel like another brother would shed some light into this.
Hey all! For the past couple of years, I feel like black women are starring at me. (sorry if i posted this in the wrong forum. I had no idea where to post this)
Last week, I was conversing with my friend and had my head turned to their direction. One of my friends quietly pointed out to me that this black girl was starring me down hard as she was walking out the door. About time I had a chance to look at her, it was too late, she had already passed me. I had no idea why she was starring at me for so long.
And today, I was driving and I passed by two black girls. (I would say they were in their late teens) As I drove passed them, one of them starred at me before I passed them and turned her head at me after i passed them. (I saw her starring at me in my rear view mirror)
I don't really get starred down by black males too much nor other women from different ethnicities. (although there were a few who have once in a while) I wouldn't consider myself good looking at all. But I'm starting to feel subconscious because maybe the way I carry myself doesn't "mesh well with the black community" In other words, those looks I get are from disapproval.
Even though anyone can jump in and feel free to give me their opinion, I am really curious from other black males or females if this has happened to them OR if they are guilty of starring at other black folks. And I'm not talking about looking at someone for a second, but actual starring for 3 or more seconds.
I know this is probably petty but I'm very curious as to why this is happening. I'm asking my black friends as we speak but any opinions on here are welcomed.
I get stared at all the time. I learned to not let it bother me in most cases. I've had people stare at me while driving to the point where they almost caused an accident. Not good.
I've seen other women stare at my dates. I think they find them attractive. It doesn't have to do with race. I date across the board, and black, white, brown, if they look good they get attention.
You're probably a handsome guy, who takes care of himself and females take notice. They're probably hoping you'll come talk to them.
disclaimer: I am a black male that is looking for specific responses from other black males. ALL opinions and comments are welcomed but I feel like another brother would shed some light into this.
Hey all! For the past couple of years, I feel like black women are starring at me. (sorry if i posted this in the wrong forum. I had no idea where to post this)
Last week, I was conversing with my friend and had my head turned to their direction. One of my friends quietly pointed out to me that this black girl was starring me down hard as she was walking out the door. About time I had a chance to look at her, it was too late, she had already passed me. I had no idea why she was starring at me for so long.
And today, I was driving and I passed by two black girls. (I would say they were in their late teens) As I drove passed them, one of them starred at me before I passed them and turned her head at me after i passed them. (I saw her starring at me in my rear view mirror)
I don't really get starred down by black males too much nor other women from different ethnicities. (although there were a few who have once in a while) I wouldn't consider myself good looking at all. But I'm starting to feel subconscious because maybe the way I carry myself doesn't "mesh well with the black community" In other words, those looks I get are from disapproval.
Even though anyone can jump in and feel free to give me their opinion, I am really curious from other black males or females if this has happened to them OR if they are guilty of starring at other black folks. And I'm not talking about looking at someone for a second, but actual starring for 3 or more seconds.
I know this is probably petty but I'm very curious as to why this is happening. I'm asking my black friends as we speak but any opinions on here are welcomed.
Well, from the sounds of it it appears that these women see something. ..interesting. I'm not Black, and I have no idea what it may be about your appearance that you feel might be drawing disapproval. But disapproving looks are hard to mistake. The eyes give it away. I'd have to actually see one of these women staring at you to properly read the expressions.
I do know what it's like to be stared at. Especially if I'm wearing shorts, as I have a lot of extensive scarring. Thus I get a LOT of curious stares. That's not drawn up along any ethnic lines, but if something makes you stand out the stares and even questions are inevitable. Since you say it is only ack women who show this interest, there must be something that makes you stand out. I suppose the path of least resistance would be the next time you see a Black lady riveting her gaze on you so would be to ask them. Politely of course. But just ask. The curiosity would be killing me, and that's what I would do were in your shoes.
I know why people stare at me. I often just explain I was in a bad accident when I was young before they say anything, or look away embarrassed. So I recommend you ask the question and get an answer from the source.
disclaimer: I am a black male that is looking for specific responses from other black males. ALL opinions and comments are welcomed but I feel like another brother would shed some light into this.
Hey all! For the past couple of years, I feel like black women are starring at me. (sorry if i posted this in the wrong forum. I had no idea where to post this)
Last week, I was conversing with my friend and had my head turned to their direction. One of my friends quietly pointed out to me that this black girl was starring me down hard as she was walking out the door. About time I had a chance to look at her, it was too late, she had already passed me. I had no idea why she was starring at me for so long.
And today, I was driving and I passed by two black girls. (I would say they were in their late teens) As I drove passed them, one of them starred at me before I passed them and turned her head at me after i passed them. (I saw her starring at me in my rear view mirror)
I don't really get starred down by black males too much nor other women from different ethnicities. (although there were a few who have once in a while) I wouldn't consider myself good looking at all. But I'm starting to feel subconscious because maybe the way I carry myself doesn't "mesh well with the black community" In other words, those looks I get are from disapproval.
Even though anyone can jump in and feel free to give me their opinion, I am really curious from other black males or females if this has happened to them OR if they are guilty of starring at other black folks. And I'm not talking about looking at someone for a second, but actual starring for 3 or more seconds.
I know this is probably petty but I'm very curious as to why this is happening. I'm asking my black friends as we speak but any opinions on here are welcomed.
If you weren't staring you wouldn't notice if others were.
I believe people stare at me but can't say for certain because I don't look at them.
Oh, all the time ....... but I am a belly dancer, after all.
What I am saying is that perhaps all of us are stared at by all the others, all the time. Some of us such as those of us who like to perform, like to be up on stage, see it without disadvantage.
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