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coschristi: I am sorry it went down like that with the feeling the detectives gave you, like you were their very own real live story out of Penthouse or Playboy. That is lame. And kinda gross.
I have mentioned elsewhere when I was a teenager, it was notable that the main problem with the adult male partners I had was that if they liked me, they wanted something more lasting and serious than what I was up for. Could be that teenagers are just in that place where fun is fun, and then you go your separate ways with (hopefully) less relationship drama. But for an adult, the odds that they'll gossip and it will become drama of another kind are pretty high. And it's not like it's impossible to find adult men who only want casual fun...just more likely you had better get them tested at the clinic first maybe.
But when the older partner is still only 19, I feel like it is still a case of "kids with kids." I'm glad you didn't get in trouble.
I have teenage sons myself now. 15 and 18. If I found out they were involved with an adult, I think I might ask if I could talk to her, make sure things are being done safely, and I might be relieved in the hopes that she'd be more responsible about such things than a fellow teenager. One of my worst nightmares (at least where my sons becoming sexually active is concerned) is that they'll get some teenage girl pregnant. I wouldn't go ballistic over her being an adult. I'm not unrealistic about teenagers. They're not little kids, they are not sexless little angels or anything. If they are gonna do it, I'd just like to know that safer sex practices are solidly in place.
coschristi: I am sorry it went down like that with the feeling the detectives gave you, like you were their very own real live story out of Penthouse or Playboy. That is lame. And kinda gross.
I have mentioned elsewhere when I was a teenager, it was notable that the main problem with the adult male partners I had was that if they liked me, they wanted something more lasting and serious than what I was up for. Could be that teenagers are just in that place where fun is fun, and then you go your separate ways with (hopefully) less relationship drama. But for an adult, the odds that they'll gossip and it will become drama of another kind are pretty high. And it's not like it's impossible to find adult men who only want casual fun...just more likely you had better get them tested at the clinic first maybe.
But when the older partner is still only 19, I feel like it is still a case of "kids with kids." I'm glad you didn't get in trouble.
I have teenage sons myself now. 15 and 18. If I found out they were involved with an adult, I think I might ask if I could talk to her, make sure things are being done safely, and I might be relieved in the hopes that she'd be more responsible about such things than a fellow teenager. One of my worst nightmares (at least where my sons becoming sexually active is concerned) is that they'll get some teenage girl pregnant. I wouldn't go ballistic over her being an adult. I'm not unrealistic about teenagers. They're not little kids, they are not sexless little angels or anything. If they are gonna do it, I'd just like to know that safer sex practices are solidly in place.
Yes! Exactly!
My boys range in age from 13 to 31 & my brain wouldn't even entertain the thought of being attracted to a teenager now. There is actually an "Eww" factor to it. At the time I was still a teen myself & turning 18 had not been an epic event; I had left home at 16 & had lived as legally emancipated so it wasn't like "ta-da; you're a grown up!"
At the time it was a refreshing change to the years of "I'm trying to be smooth & manly" approach from the older guys. The younger guys were goofy & entertaining. "Entertaining" gets you a long way with me, for some reason. Way farther than it ought to!
Obviously I know that men and women generally see sex and relationships quite differently but it amazes me the profile of women that typically do. With men it's usually loser guys that don't have much in their life, loners, happy with a one and done deal, often times unattractive. Yet in cases where it's women, particularly teachers doing it, they usually seem to be quite young - 20s-30s - and often times quite physically attractive. Obviously if they just wanted sex it wouldn't be difficult at all for them. Yet they go for underage boys. Why?
OP, I thought of this thread when I saw this. This woman is 52 and not attractive, so there!
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