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nice is the polite way of saying.."we dont want anything to do with you, go away" its like the southern expression 'Bless his heart" which means "stupid"
The only time someone said Bless Your Heart and repeated it several times is when I found a pocket book that belonged to a 80 year old woman... she must have dropped it at the market and I showed up at her door to return it... she had a very Southern manor and was from Georgia...
"nice" is a pretty generic way of saying "you don't have any positive traits but I'm to polite to tell you so." From your mother and little old ladies "nice" might be a compliment. From others, it's a subtle put down.
Y'all are totally missing most of the subtle nuances of "Bless your heart!"
Yes, SOMETIMES it's a gentle put down, but often it's simply not.
"I was in labor for 27 hours."
"Bless your heart! But that baby was worth every minute, am I right?"
"My grandmother died yesterday."
"Bless your heart! What time do I need to show up with a casserole?"
"I can't go with you to Girls Night Out - I have walking pneumonia and I'm not supposed to mix alcohol with my meds."
"Bless your heart! Well, someone can always drive you home!"
"I can't believe this - the whole heel just fell off my shoe!"
"Bless your heart - Dillards just got in the new fall collection - go git you some new shoes!"
"I couldn't order any eclipse glasses because every site was sold out!"
"Bless your heart - I have two extra pairs so you just come over and git you and Jimmydean a pair."
You know when "Bless your heart" is a put down or not. It's fun when a northerner is in the south and they don't think you know what it means and then the look you give them back lets them know that you know exactly what they meant.
How much does it depend on the person calling you "nice," how enjoyable is it to hear...? If no one calls you "nice," okay, just tell us that. Maybe many people are in that boat. And is "nice" much more common from strangers and casual acquaintances than loved ones?
In a way, it kind of scares me. It makes me think--do we really live in such a harsh world, that being nice is something noteworthy? Is our world really that cold and cruel?
How much does it depend on the person calling you "nice," how enjoyable is it to hear...? If no one calls you "nice," okay, just tell us that. Maybe many people are in that boat. And is "nice" much more common from strangers and casual acquaintances than loved ones?
Depends on your age and the circumstances. When I was in my late teens, a girl told me one time "You are too nice of a guy." I got the impression I wasn't the bad boy she was looking for.
But now that I am older, when someone, like at work, says, you are REALLY a nice guy, it means a lot to me. It shows that they respect me enough to go to the trouble of mentioning it.
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