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Old 08-24-2017, 06:50 PM
 
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I've never been diagnosed with anything, but I do think I have intrusive thoughts. One is I fall into these no one loves me spells, and turn into a crying jag. I know in my heart it's not true, I have a family and a guy who thinks I'm super!

It's not as bad as it used to be, but I still get those sad eternal loneliness type feelings.
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Old 08-24-2017, 06:59 PM
 
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*nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I'm gonna go eat worms*

Here's how to deal with that. When you feel like nobody loves you, think of something really nice to do for someone else. Send an email to an acquaintance telling them how much what they did last week impacted you positively, go buy a little plant for a friend whose birthday is coming up and leave it on her doorstep with a card, etc.

Taking your mind off yourself and on to doing something lovely for someone else will cure this Eeyore thing.
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Old 08-24-2017, 08:13 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I've never been diagnosed with anything, but I do think I have intrusive thoughts. One is I fall into these no one loves me spells, and turn into a crying jag. I know in my heart it's not true, I have a family and a guy who thinks I'm super!

It's not as bad as it used to be, but I still get those sad eternal loneliness type feelings.
Good God who cares if someone likes you?

Like yourself, to heck with others.

Not everyone can be the popular girl or cool kid.
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Old 08-24-2017, 09:05 PM
 
Location: Some Airport Transit Zone
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*nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I'm gonna go eat worms*

Here's how to deal with that. When you feel like nobody loves you, think of something really nice to do for someone else. Send an email to an acquaintance telling them how much what they did last week impacted you positively, go buy a little plant for a friend whose birthday is coming up and leave it on her doorstep with a card, etc.

Taking your mind off yourself and on to doing something lovely for someone else will cure this Eeyore thing.
Agree 100%
The best remedy to cure "the no one loves me" syndrome is altruism.
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Old 08-24-2017, 09:08 PM
 
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Stop giving a turd about what others think. It's your world, squirrel!
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Old 08-24-2017, 10:16 PM
 
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Meditation is great to learn about keeping away intrusive thoughts. I sometimes wake up with nightmares of being basically buried alive. They terrify me. Meditation helps me shove those thoughts away and focus on more neutral and boring thoughts - and then I can go back to sleep.

WHerever You go, There You Are is a great book.
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Old 08-25-2017, 01:27 PM
 
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*nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I'm gonna go eat worms*

Here's how to deal with that. When you feel like nobody loves you, think of something really nice to do for someone else. Send an email to an acquaintance telling them how much what they did last week impacted you positively, go buy a little plant for a friend whose birthday is coming up and leave it on her doorstep with a card, etc.

Taking your mind off yourself and on to doing something lovely for someone else will cure this Eeyore thing.

PERFECT advice!


I would also add...if you're young and female, you're hormonal. Lots of times, our sad and intrusive thoughts come with our cycle. If you think of it objectively like that...maybe it would help.
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Old 08-26-2017, 10:03 PM
 
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Go out and face the world. Go to parties, the mall, restaurants, the store, anywhere where there are other people. Talk to your friends, even make small talk with strangers. You'll find that people are pleasant and will treat you just fine. They won't sneer, jeer, or berate you.

The more you face people, the better you'll feel. You may not get rid of that thought completely, but you'll feel better about what you think about them. They're not out to hurt you.
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Old 08-27-2017, 12:57 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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It's tiring. I've always been the weird person or odd girl out. I've always gotten along better with males. Which tie? Hand me the wrench. Pretty simple.
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Old 08-27-2017, 01:11 AM
 
Location: Silicon Valley
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has really helped me with this. One of the techniques is to "fact-check." In your mind or in your journal do some fact-checking. You already mentioned that you know people who love you. So, you write them down.

"Nobody loves me." What are the facts? Who can I list that loves me? List them. Therefore, what my mind is telling me is not fact.

By the way, I also learned to check some basics when I'm feeling like that - am I eating right? Too much caffeine or alcohol? Getting enough sleep? Getting enough exercise?

I have found a small thing that really makes a difference for me is taking a walk. Of course, the exercise always helps, but it breaks me out of a mental rut. It really helps to put on the shoes and just walk around the block. This is a big reason why I got a dog. Having to walk her really helps me.

But, it's a matter of checking your thoughts and behaviors to stop this kind of thing. And CBT is all about exactly that.
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