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Old 09-11-2017, 11:06 AM
 
Location: The Republic of Gilead
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You really need to consistently go to Meetups for it to be effective. I did regularly for a while and it really helped improve my social life. It took me a long time to get up the nerve to do it. The thing is though, they are hit or miss. Sometimes you will have a great time and others you won't quite click. That is normal. Keep going though and eventually you'll have a solid social group.
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Old 09-13-2017, 02:52 PM
 
Location: Houston area
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Might be best to attend a meetup that is an actual activity not one where everybody is standing around and you have to make conversation.
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Old 09-13-2017, 06:03 PM
 
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From my experience with Meetup in a very large city, if 100 rsvp then maybe 25 show up. And 90% of the people that show up will be like you. A little (or a lot) introverted, nervous etc but wanting to make an effort to put themselves out there an meet some new people. Just force yourself to go to the next one. Personally I find that ones without alcohol are less intimidating. Anything at a pub or with drinking feels like a meat market mixer because clearly people are there to drink and try to hook up with people which is all good but you go to one that is involves an actual hobby or activity like hiking for example and there is less pressure involved and people tend to be more relaxed and let the guard down
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Old 09-14-2017, 06:20 PM
 
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Meet ups are lame with lame people. Better off to join some type of group or activity where the main purpose isn't to make friends. At least then you will meet other people who already have friends/groups of their own that you can naturally become a part of. Instead you will have a bunch of friendless people desperately and unnaturally trying to be friends.

I thought about going once, then looked at the photos of the people at the events and said no way.

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Old 09-14-2017, 06:26 PM
 
Location: Bethlehem
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I felt the same. So I don't go anymore.
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