C-D Poster Profiles (emotion)

[Matt Marcinkiewicz]

Good stuff! I laughed out loud a couple times. I'm mostly a nomadic dungeon dweller (I'll venture to any forum if something of interest catches my eye...but the threads that catch my eye are most likely to be in the dungeon), but, sadly, I have my malevolent moments where I lash out at some regular or another and end up with a deleted post or infraction. So I'm not nearly as benevolent a nomad as I'd like to be. And I almost entirely avoid Politics & Other Controversies and Relationships (I've never commented once in the latter) because I figure I'd be even less benevolent if I posted in these places.

One general comment about this forum while we're at it--does anyone else kind of marvel that this forum gets so few posters given that the quality of the average post on this site is pretty high? You'd think that there'd be more curious would-be relocators who turn up here--that's how I first stumbled upon the site. Or do you feel the opposite, surprise[d] that there are people throughout the country who care enough about to keep returning to their respective city/state forums and answering the few questions that do exist/debating the other regulars. I can kind of see either POV here, but ultimately I'm a bit surprised this forum hasn't grown to be larger than it is.

[Rowan123]

Definitely some truth in the OP's post!

[coschristi]

Originally Posted by ShouldIMoveOrStayPut...?

In a half serious/ half tongue in cheek format, I thought it might be curious to delve into some of the habits, mindsets (and locksets) of what I have experienced and come across with fellow C-D members and posters over the years. The "Psychology" forum seemed the most appropriate one to place the thread. And so here is my take on some of the "Poster Personalities" so to speak. Feel free to add, embellish, disagree, blend from one or more, etc....

I think it's a fun topic, although I question whether I'm self-insightful enough to be accurate! The irony, is that of course; I feel I'd do a great job analyzing everybody else.

I do know who I want to be! I want to be this guy (girl):

Originally Posted by ShouldIMoveOrStayPut...?

The "Nomad"

Their philosophical boots and backpack are their home, have varied interests and knowledge and can show up on any thread at any time. They have a particular aversion of malevolent regulars and the clever one's can make short work of them.

Remember that EF Hutton ad from the early 1980's : "When E.F. Hutton talks; people listen!" ... Where the entire busy restaurant freezes into silence to hear what one diner has to say?

Yeah; In my "delusions of grandeur"? I like to see myself like that! I do have varied interests & I am able to quickly educate myself enough to at least keep up but I'm just not cool or clever enough to knock a Malevolent off their pedestal.

I find myself, instead, wishing there was a "blowing you a juicy raspberry" emoji ... Which is not very clever, really. I'm like that in real life too: I'm the person who thinks of all the awesome comebacks after everything has blown over; never in time to be cool!

So if I can;t be that guy? My next choice would be this guy:

Originally Posted by ShouldIMoveOrStayPut...?

The Benevolent Regular...

Sets up shop on one particular State, City, or Subject Matter forum. If knowledgeable, posts very helpful information, helps and welcomes newcomers, etc. Usually a pleasant sort even if not so knowledgeable>

... Because I admire those who show kindness & are able to be good "ambassadors" here on CD. It's needed: In general I'd say that CD attracts a very different demographic group than many forums/message boards/social media sites ... If the WWW. was Thanksgiving Day dinner? CD would be the grown-up's table.

But there is a tendency to "eat our young" here, so I appreciate those that show Benevolence. I'm just not sure I measure up; as I am ALWAYS seated ( & possibly prefer to be) at the children's table myself. So; as much as I hate to admit it? I guess I'm going to have to go with this:

Originally Posted by ShouldIMoveOrStayPut...?

The "Popularity" Poster

Likes to be popular and well thought of with a high reputation point score. You get the feeling they sometimes gear their comments towards this goal and may forego saying what they really feel as a result. They can start a thread in an inappropriate forum if they feel if will gain more views over the proper one with less traffic. Some can be very fast out of the gate with a hot topic geared to their forum of choice and one can wonder if these particular posters ever sleep.

They may also fiercely guard said hot topics from any latecomers that may chime in or start a similar thread later on.

... Sigh ...

Originally Posted by ShouldIMoveOrStayPut...?

Likes to be popular and well thought of with a high reputation point score...

Well ; YEAH; I do. I actually am a bit proud of my rep points to number of posts ratio. This is literally the only venue in my life for validation or feedback right now; weeks upon weeks may go by without me having the chance to engage with one sole person that hasn't: Brought me into this world, impregnated me, or that I haven't given birth to myself.

I'm an uncompensated family caregiver; it's not an unusual occurrence by any means & many here either are now, or will be at some point, having to do this. What is a severely life-mitigating factor for me personally? Is that I'm care-giving for a disability that is, by definition; marked by profoundly delayed social development.

Every opportunity for social interaction is designed around 1 persons desires, dreams & limitations ...& that one person ... isn't me & hasn't been for 10 years. My "caregivee"? Is not growing physically older, sicker or more frail & instead is getting bigger & stronger by the day. As far as I know? This will be my life until I'm no longer alive. I'd be willing to bet there are more here like me (socially isolated) than I'm aware of. They probably just don't whine about it as much!

Originally Posted by ShouldIMoveOrStayPut...?

You get the feeling they sometimes gear their comments towards this goal and may forego saying what they really feel as a result.

I sort of got that feeling about myself too, a while back, so I'm actively working on just saying what I really mean, despite knowing that somebody might dislike it. Or me.

I've had a very unconventional life. And a lot of that has been my fault. Some of it hasn't; I'm a magnet for events others describe as: "Bet you couldn't do THAT again if you tried!" Or simply; "WTF?" It would be a shame to waste all THAT insight just because I want to be in the "In" crowd. Maybe there is someone else out there that needs my perspective (God help you if you do)?

Many might be surprised how many times I reply to a thread, saying exactly what I really mean ... And then chicken out before I hit "submit reply". I'll leave it up on the computer for a day or even more & just ... look at it ... every time I walk by. Eventually I man-up & just go for it ... And then I try to "not see" the thread again for a while. Because I'm too chicken to see any potential negative reactions (I know. I'm a mess)!

Originally Posted by ShouldIMoveOrStayPut...?

They can start a thread in an inappropriate forum if they feel if will gain more views over the proper one with less traffic. Some can be very fast out of the gate with a hot topic geared to their forum of choice and one can wonder if these particular posters ever sleep.

They may also fiercely guard said hot topics from any latecomers that may chime in or start a similar thread later on.

This; not so much. Except for the sleep part; I wonder if I ever get any sleep too. And I wouldn't use the word "fierce" to describe my behavior in general, except for that one 2 month long posting binge I had on the Great Debates sub when I actually debated! But that wasn't as much for the benefit as those I was debating (who's minds were made up already) as it was feeling a sense of responsibility to those quietly watching & reading.

I guess I could say I have had some interesting insight from another poster regarding my personality "type". They were inclined to remain anonymous so my only way to respond is why my little status caption below my name reads: "Kooky? yes. BS? nope". Their comment was something like "You have got to be one of the kookiest people on the internet! I'm sure most of it is BS but you're very entertaining!" (something like that; it's too old for me to see now)

So; I guess if there was a designation "Kooky" that would be my spot. As much as I'd like to say "Oh sure; it's all BS"? It's not; on the bright side ... I never have to worry about anyone trying to steal my identity.

[oh-eve]

The crazy one
Posts really strong, opinionated and often offensive, know it all-like, putting people down, especially in relationship, psychology, parenting, employment, non-romantic forum.


If you look into their history, you may find out they post in the mental health forum about their bipolar/anger/depression, homeless at one point, low wage job, abandoned by their own children, incapable to keep a relationship.

[oh-eve]

The forever virgin


Posts mostly in the relationship forum about his hypothetical gfs, deal breakers, gives marital advice to longterm married people.

[Luvvarkansas]

I couldn't find one that fit me exactly. Should I be worried?

[Escort Rider]

Here's another suggestion: "Mr. or Mrs. trivial chit-chat addict". This poster delights in posting (and reading) the most banal, trivial, boring aspects of daily life. Examples would be how many dogs you saw on your morning walk, what you had for breakfast, the latest weather where you live (I mean absent major events like hurricanes), your upset stomach of yesterday (thank heavens it's better today!), and the like. I am totally mystified how anyone could find that stuff of interest at all.


But I suppose it's just proof that it takes all kinds and that we are all different.

[ShouldIMoveOrStayPut...?]

Gathering additional profiles provided by posters for easy viewing:

Condescending Know It All by PJSinger

The Crazy One by oh-eve

Forever Virgin by oh-eve

The Lone Mean Poster by sheena12

Trivial Chit Chat Addict by escort rider

Originally Posted by Matt Marcinkiewicz

I'm mostly a nomadic dungeon dweller

This a noble and worthy hybrid IMO, I also consider myself this type of hybrid with some Brigadoon thrown in due to the fact I get busy in bunches and can be away from the forums for extended periods.

Originally Posted by Luvvarkansas

I couldn't find one that fit me exactly. Should I be worried?

You Are likely a hybrid...

Originally Posted by coschristi

have varied interests & I am able to quickly educate myself enough to at least keep up but I'm just not cool or clever enough to knock a Malevolent off their pedestal.

I'm the person who thinks of all the awesome comebacks after everything has blown over; never in time to be cool!

coschristi, you strive to be more like the Nomad, the most sage nomads allow malevolents to knock themselves off the pedestal by simply stepping out of the way of their blows, using unexpected compassion and kindness, and if finding it necessary to defend themselves, using their opponents momentum against them and to their favor. I do not think you need to be clever along the lines of how you define it.

I can see here that many of us strive to be more like the Nomad, I do not know if you are old enough to remember the television series "Kung Fu" with David Carradine. IMO he plays the textbook example of the philosophical, sentient and kind wandering nomad who always strives for kindness and understanding, and handles adversity in a way described above. This video is a good example I think...


Kung Fu

Originally Posted by coschristi

Well ; YEAH; I do. I actually am a bit proud of my rep points to number of posts ratio. This is literally the only venue in my life for validation or feedback right now.

I sort of got that feeling about myself too, a while back, so I'm actively working on just saying what I really mean, despite knowing that somebody might dislike it. Or me.

Many might be surprised how many times I reply to a thread, saying exactly what I really mean ... And then chicken out before I hit "submit reply". I'll leave it up on the computer for a day or even more & just ... look at it ... every time I walk by. Eventually I man-up & just go for it ... And then I try to "not see" the thread again for a while. Because I'm too chicken to see any potential negative reaction

I really feel you would be happier with yourself and more fulfilled if you simply stated what's on your mind and let the rep points fall where they may, they are a hollow validation at this point, leaving you with a false sense of worth and validation combined with leaving your genuine feelings bottled up and unexpressed. You may find other aspects of your life stress ebbing if you start being honest with yourself.

[sheena12]

Originally Posted by Luvvarkansas

I couldn't find one that fit me exactly. Should I be worried?

No. I'm actually a combination of two. That's normal.

[Metaphysique]

Originally Posted by sheena12

No. I'm actually a combination of two. That's normal.

Same. Though others might say otherwise.