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No. Actually many times I'm grateful I don't have it as bad as some people do. I especially am grateful that I've never lost a child. I don't know how people survive that or being the parent of a missing person. What if my daughter were murdered or in an abusive relationship or on drugs...I'd lose my freaking mind. Is that weird that I think I have it better than a lot of people but never wonder if I have it worse? Because I don't have some exceptional life. I have a pretty boring regular life but I see boring as good.
Same here. I actually marvel at how fortunate I have been in so many ways. The sheer number of bad things I have *not* had to deal with is sometimes mind-blowing, as I've listened to people recount things that have happened to them or that they are dealing with. Sometimes I am envious of things or situations that others have, but I also realize there are things they don't have that I do. And also that happy appearances aren't always reflective of reality - I've been a bit shell-shocked by how many relationships and marriages have broken up among my friends and acquaintances.
People present a false version of themselves to the public and on social media. People I knew in high school have photoshopped their pictures on social media. It is obvious. When I see them at reunions, they look nothing like their social media pictures. I think possibly they have some shame about how the aging process that we all go through. I also think it's hard for women who used to rely on their sex appeal in high school because back then, the guys all wanted them; but those same guys 20+ years later are chasing after younger women, not the women they went to high school with.
Yes, I think that other people have it better than me. Not as much now, but I still do, especially with my family members who make a LOT more money than I do. I feel like they can go out to eat several times week or splurge on clothes without thinking gee, that was really expensive. Mostly this.
Or they must have a LOT of money saved up by now, and they're not even living in huge 5 bedroom houses or own 3 luxury cars or wear designer clothes. They're just people like me with a modest house and 2 cars (like me). I've always wondered how much people who make 6-figures have in their bank account.
Sure, they pay for a housekeeper, their children go to a private school, and they buy a lot of toys for their children, but all that can't dent their bank account right? But it'll send me to the poor house, by comparison.
I don't think that seeing that some people have problems has anything to do with what one feels is lacking in one's own life.
There are plenty of people who do not have problems or have no serious problems, and actually have a great life - and one can see this and it can tend to emphasize what one feels is lacking in one's own life. Still being grateful for what one does have, but aching for what may be lacking.
Last edited by matisse12; 10-17-2017 at 05:16 PM..
Absolutely. I always wonder what my life would be like if I wasn’t born ugly, or to a single parent, or bullied, or abused, or if I was born to a wealthy family. I know for a fact that if I had any of those things not happen then I’d be a happier person today. People who happened to be born to the right parents, or with the right looks, or to parents with wealth are EXTREMELY lucky. Some of the experiences I’ve been through in life have made me have a very pessimistic outlook. I don’t believe in any gods or religions and I don’t think life has any deeper meaning behind it or that anyone was put here for a reason. I believe we’re just here to live and die and a lot of your happiness (or lack of it) in life will be determined by things that you can’t control. It’s unfair but it’s reality and it just sucks when you’re on the negative end of it.
Meh. Both my husband and I come from totally dysfunctional homes. My step father beat with a board and I went through a closed window, sexual abuse from a teacher... all kinds of fun and hi-jinks
I'm happy, I sure as heck will not give power to all those horrible people to make my life miserable.
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