Sitting side-by-side or across the table (Ambien, girlfriend, husband, relationship)

[Parnassia]

Might depend on what's on that other seat.

[hunterseat]

right? like he's going to take me out to dinner? pfft

[adjusterjack]

Originally Posted by Katzpur

When you and your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend or significant other go out to eat alone (i.e. just together, without friends) and sit in a booth, do you sit side-by-side on the same side of the table, or do you sit across from one another? It has always just driven me crazy to see couples sitting side-by-side, both facing the same direction at the empty seat on the other side of the table. I wonder why people do this. Or am I the weird one?

My first reaction is that it's none of your freakin' business and I don't care if it drives you crazy.


You have no idea what the situation is between any two people that either sit next to each or across from each other.


Many restaurants have god-awful background music that exacerbates the noise of people talking.


I wear hearing aids. In a noisy environment my girlfriend and I sit side by side so we can talk. In a quiet environment we sit across from each other. The other day we were at a place where the booth had cushioned seat on one side and wooden chairs on the other so we both sat together on the cushioned seat.


Make sense?


There is no rhyme or reason to it.


And there is no reason for you to be driven crazy by what other people do.


Jeez, I read some of these discussions and a wonder: from out of what woodwork do some of you people come?

[detshen]

We always sit across from each other, sitting next to him with nobody opposite would feel weird and completely awkward to me. I want to see his face and make eye contact while we talk.

[Nonesuch]

So apparently there's a whole subfield of Proxemics dedicated to of the psychology around where you sit at a table.

I like to sit diagonally across on a rectangular table. Gives me room to stretch out without playing footsie.

[the minx]

I think it's sweet to see a couple sitting next to each other. It's intimate.

I've only had one date sit next to me. He was a very romantic type, so it didn't surprise me.

[JanND]

Across....I like my elbow room and it is more conducive to conversation.

[Katzpur]

Originally Posted by North Beach Person

Across.

As to your other question about being the "weird one". Not gonna speculate.

Thank you! I appreciate that!

[Katzpur]

Originally Posted by adjusterjack

My first reaction is that it's none of your freakin' business and I don't care if it drives you crazy.


And there is no reason for you to be driven crazy by what other people do.


Jeez, I read some of these discussions and a wonder: from out of what woodwork do some of you people come?

Sorry!

[Katzpur]

Originally Posted by detshen

We always sit across from each other, sitting next to him with nobody opposite would feel weird and completely awkward to me. I want to see his face and make eye contact while we talk.

I'm with you, but apparently I pushed a few buttons by voicing my thoughts.