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OP a bit odd. But, it seems that you both have a bit of a quirk when it comes to food. Your description shows that you too are a bit obsessed.
So, you can take it as a compliment that she knew your food would be delightful, and not begrudge her the lack of manners for planning how to take some home.
Or, you can simply not invite her over for food again.
This is not about money or frugality....it's just really difficult to find food that tastes good unless you cook it yourself. Mid-range restaurants, retirement homes, Meals on Wheels....they just can't cook tasty meals. And I'm willing to bet that the 66 year old woman does not cook for herself or her family. The OP should invite her to lunch more often, she clearly knows what good food is supposed to taste like.
This is not about money or frugality....it's just really difficult to find food that tastes good unless you cook it yourself. Mid-range restaurants, retirement homes, Meals on Wheels....they just can't cook tasty meals. And I'm willing to bet that the 66 year old woman does not cook for herself or her family. The OP should invite her to lunch more often, she clearly knows what good food is supposed to taste like.
I was thinking along the same lines. Maybe she's just a horrible cook and the chance to take back some tasty home cooked food was an opportunity she couldn't pass up, so she came prepared, lol.
This is not about money or frugality....it's just really difficult to find food that tastes good unless you cook it yourself. Mid-range restaurants, retirement homes, Meals on Wheels....they just can't cook tasty meals. And I'm willing to bet that the 66 year old woman does not cook for herself or her family. The OP should invite her to lunch more often, she clearly knows what good food is supposed to taste like.
You're correct; this is not about money or frugality.
It's about entitlement: a character flaw this 66 year-old *whoever* clearly possesses. She does not possess humility or shame or even basic social skills.
She was graciously invited to a lovely meal at the hand and home of an acquaintance. This acquaintance may very well be known to love and make delicious meals. She felt that she deserved - DESERVED, and WOULD SUCCEED - in taking home the remainder of someone else's work... work she is not willing to do herself. So entitled did she feel, in advance, that she came prepared to take something that didn't belong to her. So deserving of this did she feel that she didn't consider that her HOST would want to use the remainder of the meal.
A compliment would be gushing over the meal and asking if her host could share the recipe. (The host would have likely offered to send her home with a bowl AND that recipe.)
The OP's guest should not be invited again. If she is, it is the OP's choice and he'll go into it knowing what to expect and be prepared to say no or withhold the initial amount that seems "available."
Interesting....however, she arrived with her own containers. That implies planning to pack them full of someone else's offering before they even offered it. Maybe a little sign on the front door; "please check all containers before entering."
I know, and if she used to take this as a habit, it's not a good habit.
I'm talking about the method she used. look, she used the same method TWICE. Her method wasn't randomly, her method was for purpose, and this purpose is to make taking her second dish appropriatee. She didn't ask him/her directly (Why) Because she knows that's would be inappropriate behavior. So, She ate her dish, and asked for another one while she wasn't hungry, just in order to make it labeled as her own dish so that it's OK (For her) if she asked later to take it. She didn't think that the other could focus on how many dishes (food) she ate.
In our measurements, it's inappropriate method because the host already noticed and annoyed.
But according to her own measurements, she found it appropriate. That's why she made it TWICE!
Let's call what she did was" Method A"
Imagine that the host presented to her the first dish, and then she ate a little from it, then put a dish aside. Later, she asked to take it. NEVER asked for another dish. Let's call this assumption " Method B"
Would it be EXACTLY the same thing as what she did in "Method A"?
Would it EXACTLY bother the host as "Method A" ?
No, not the same!
Both inappropriate but Method B is much better in comparison with Method A She did Method A in order to make it seems like Method B.
She forgot or didn't take into consideration that there is someone could focus on her.
This is what I think but I'm not sure.
Ultimately, she is an old lady not young !! I didn't expect that. Usually we don't focus on some behaviors that old people do. It's OK.
If she doesn't have other annoying behaviors like inappropriate speaking as example, just this behavior you all discussed above, then I see, it doesn't deserve not to invite her again for other occasions. But take into account full preparing for her containers.
Why is everyone labeled 'entitled' on CD? (and stated like it's a diagnosis). I don't hear this buzzword all the time IRL.
Anyway, it's totally wrong, definitely, manners wise. But if OP enjoys her company I don't see why advice is to never have her again. Everyone has quirks, and if we never tolerate a quirk, we will find ourselves totally alone quickly.
It depends on if it matters to him that he will be serving two portions when she comes. If he doesn't, it's not a thing.
We have two people at our church who always preemptively pack up to-go boxes before everyone has gotten food at the regular potlucks we have. But, they are both developmentally disabled seniors. We tend to make extra for them, because we know.
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