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Interesting I didn't understand this award system and now this makes sense. So the financial award system is influencing all this clutter I've seen and a backlash toward those "undeserving" award winners.
Interesting I didn't understand this award system and now this makes sense. So the financial award system is influencing all this clutter I've seen and a backlash toward those "undeserving" award winners.
VERY FEW people win those, most don't even notice it and about 99% don't care about them so it has virtually no influence.
Ok. So I hope you don’t find this argumentative and mean, but what does “cup to bear” mean?
I haven’t heard that.
'not my burden/not my worry'
I don't know the origin, but best guess is that is is from a period of history when servants were responsible for keeping up with their masters valuable cups and serving them.
'not my burden/not my worry'
I don't know the origin, but best guess is that is is from a period of history when servants were responsible for keeping up with their masters valuable cups and serving them.
I tried to Google it, and nothing shows up. I've heard of "not my cross to bear" and "not my cup of tea."
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I tried to Google it, and nothing shows up. I've heard of "not my cross to bear" and "not my cup of tea."
I couldn't find it either, but I have heard it before. Perhaps it's regional, or an older obscure term that I've read somewhere. But it makes sense as cup bearers often had to test the noble's drink for poison by taking a sip before serving, I'd definitely consider that a worry and a burden.
I couldn't find it either, but I have heard it before. Perhaps it's regional, or an older obscure term that I've read somewhere. But it makes sense as cup bearers often had to test the noble's drink for poison by taking a sip before serving, I'd definitely consider that a worry and a burden.
Google knows all.
If they don't have it - doesn't exist.
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What I think would be good between adults is to DM a person that they have a problem with, and not to continually bring them down in public. I've done this with a couple members and if we can talk as adults and get things off our minds, that would be good. I would appreciate hearing from members as to WHY they have such a dislike for me. And again not humiliating the person in public.
I often do not hear back as they don't want to discuss their dislike about me. So at least I'm open to chat. We're all big kids. They just have this way about them to aire in public.
The thing is too, do we develop a friendship outside the forum? Usually not, I developed two nice friendships on the very first health forum I was on in 2005 or so and one friend we've met and get together now and then and the other is back East and we email and stay in touch.
So many just decide they don't like a person due to their postings and that's it. Pretty small thinking.
We all have more in common than many want to believe, all part of the human race.
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What I object to are the groups of self-appointed cheerleaders out to prop up certain of city-data’s repetitive troubled posters. Some of these regulars almost fall over patting themselves on the back about how they are “helping” these people by offering endless empty support and encouragement in poor decision making.
I was recently called a “crone” by one of these “nice people” for offering practical advice that could have actually helped the poster to a better future. I didn’t sugar coat it, but I didn’t insult anybody either. Sometimes it’s the “nice” people you have to watch out for.
You should report that behavior, IMO. there is no reason for name calling on this forum, which is moderated.
What I think would be good between adults is to DM a person that they have a problem with, and not to continually bring them down in public. I've done this with a couple members and if we can talk as adults and get things off our minds, that would be good. I would appreciate hearing from members as to WHY they have such a dislike for me. And again not humiliating the person in public.
I often do not hear back as they don't want to discuss their dislike about me. So at least I'm open to chat. We're all big kids. They just have this way about them to aire in public.
The thing is too, do we develop a friendship outside the forum? Usually not, I developed two nice friendships on the very first health forum I was on in 2005 or so and one friend we've met and get together now and then and the other is back East and we email and stay in touch.
So many just decide they don't like a person due to their postings and that's it. Pretty small thinking.
We all have more in common than many want to believe, all part of the human race.
But it makes sense as cup bearers often had to test the noble's drink for poison by taking a sip before serving, I'd definitely consider that a worry and a burden.
That’s quite a stretch...but ok. I only asked bc I tried to find it first, and ...no.
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So many just decide they don't like a person due to their postings and that's it. Pretty small thinking.
And herein lies the problem some have.
People post words in response to the words posted. It is not an “attack on a person”. Why take it personally? I do not know these people, they have proven they do not know me. They don’t like my words sometimes, oh well?
Those of you posting about “gangs of women, young and old swooping down on you”...
“Standing up and fighting for the under dog!”...
Could you please read the TOS now? Respond to the OP and their question when you respond in a thread, or you’re the problem as well.
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