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Old 04-17-2018, 09:26 AM
 
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Do you ever miss an earlier version of yourself -- even though you don't actually wish to go back to that period in your life?

For example, someone might be single and miss the time when they were in a long-term relationship. Or, it's the exact opposite -- they're in a steady relationship, but sometimes miss the sense of freedom that being single gave them, even though they're happy with their partner.

Maybe they reflect on their carefree college days, the time they worked with their dad on the farm, or late-night outings with close friends before having kids.

Again, it's not that you want to be that person all over again, but you sort of miss being more naive and carefree, with more opportunities on the horizon than you may have now.

Has this happened to you?
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Old 04-17-2018, 12:08 PM
 
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Do you ever miss an earlier version of yourself -- even though you don't actually wish to go back to that period in your life?

For example, someone might be single and miss the time when they were in a long-term relationship. Or, it's the exact opposite -- they're in a steady relationship, but sometimes miss the sense of freedom that being single gave them, even though they're happy with their partner.

Maybe they reflect on their carefree college days, the time they worked with their dad on the farm, or late-night outings with close friends before having kids.

Again, it's not that you want to be that person all over again, but you sort of miss being more naive and carefree, with more opportunities on the horizon than you may have now.

Has this happened to you?
Except for the early days of my daughter's infancy, when I was home with her and so happy to be a new mom, now is my favorite time. Not physically, because I am almost 60, lol, but as far as the rest of my life is right now, I like "now" more than I liked any other "then". Somebody loves me, and I'm not broke. Those two major changes from the rest of my adult life have made all the difference.
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Old 04-17-2018, 12:11 PM
 
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No
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Old 04-17-2018, 12:13 PM
 
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Nope, no regrets about the past but only look at the present.
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Old 04-17-2018, 12:16 PM
 
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yep, all the free time I used to have when I was in high school.
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Old 04-17-2018, 12:28 PM
 
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Yes, when I was single and a free spirit.
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Old 04-17-2018, 12:51 PM
 
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Yeah, I'm not as energetic and tireless as I once was. Really can't walk for miles, or dance all night.
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Old 04-17-2018, 01:51 PM
 
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Yes and no. I miss having physical youth, more energy, and less need to worry about taking care of the body I'm in. At 39, I'm just now reaching a point where, if I neglect to care for myself, there will be consequences. Try and live off ramen and frozen pizza for 3 days straight? Oh yeah, my gut will let me know I messed up. I hate how I can seemingly injure myself doing nothing of consequence. I've crippled myself for a week, throwing my neck out of whack, to the point I couldn't even turn my head, simply twisting the wrong way to shut off my alarm clock in the morning. That's just embarrassing.

I miss, too, the relative physical perfection I had pre-pregnancy/childbirth/nursing. I'm in pretty good shape, considering, but it was nonetheless better before.

But mentally and emotionally? I really like where I'm at now. The me of previous life stages made a lot of really foolish mistakes, and I often wonder what my life would have been like, if this or that choice could be unmade in my past. Not quite regrets, but...curiosity, I guess. If we create a parallel universe, for instance, with every choice we don't make, I wish I could peek through a window to see what the me living there is like.
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Old 04-17-2018, 02:29 PM
 
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Yeah, I'm not as energetic and tireless as I once was. Really can't walk for miles, or dance all night.
Yep! The younger me had functional joints that laughed off the miles. The younger me wasn't as easily talked out of something adventurous or walking off into the unknown. Having more knowledge/experience doesn't automatically make something easier.
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Old 04-17-2018, 02:30 PM
 
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No. Not at all. I'd love to be physically younger but I wouldn't go back. Life has been a bit tough and it has been a struggle for me to get to where I am mentally and emotionally.
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