Thought patterns and new thoughts (men, parent, father)

[flylife]

Basically, I've discovered that there is some kind of psychological thing with men and boys. Why does the son become like the father and why do the younger brother become like the oldest brother?

Why do they look up to the oldest

Why does the oldest son strive different than the others

Why does the oldest start noticing certain things he says is what his dad used to say

I may be late to realizing this but I just started focusing on these odd things about life

[Travel Crazy]

No, it's not odd....it is both common and normal.

A few comments:
-- Parents always have the highest expectations for the oldest child, that's where the striving come from -- meeting parental expectations.
-- You know the phrase" the apple doesn't fall far from the tree". That exists in most all families and it makes sense because who are your primary models in life? Your parents, or other caretakers.
-- The younger siblings often look to the oldest as a model because they know the older one has been through more of the ropes and might be willing to help them in a less judgmental way than parents, perhaps.

[flylife]

Originally Posted by Travel Crazy

No, it's not odd....it both common and normal.

A few comments:
-- Parents always have the highest expectations for the oldest child, that's where the striving come from -- meeting parental expectations.
-- You know the phrase" the apple doesn't fall far from the tree". That exists in most all families and it makes sense because who are your primary models in life? Your parents, or other caretakers.
-- The younger siblings often look to the oldest as a model because they know the older one has been through more of the ropes and might be willing to help them in a less judgmental way than parents, perhaps.

Thank you for the posts and explanation. It seems this is just something you always see and hear but don't truly understand until everyone gets older

I started noticing my brothers look up to me in a way I didn't realize before. I moved from everyone I know to a different state

After a few years now, they have picked up the hobbies and interests I was involved in after and now I'm noticing how much i influenced them

They have adapted to being like myself, when I talk to them today its like im remembering the old younger me

[Parnassia]

Hmm, don't think that was the case in my family. I am the eldest but never felt that either sibling looked up to me. Well, possibly a bit by the youngest, but not much. Each of us values and is motivated by very different things in our lives. One thing the two of us did have in common was avoiding the middle sibling. She was the tyrannical vicious one so we stayed as far out of the line of fire as possible.