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Old 06-12-2018, 08:56 AM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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No I definitely don’t have a crush. And he isn’t doing it on purpose. He just probably thinks I’m ugly.

You have a seriously negative self image, then. Work on that. Ignore him.

 
Old 06-12-2018, 08:57 AM
 
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No I definitely don’t have a crush. And he isn’t doing it on purpose. He just probably thinks I’m ugly.

I am not trying to appease him. I say hello or smile like I would do to anyone who I pass.

How the heck would you know what he thinks? If he is being pointedly rude and you keep trying to smile and say hello then you are appeasing him, why. Why continue to say hello or smile, just ignore him, don’t have to be rude, but why reward rude behaviour?
 
Old 06-12-2018, 09:02 AM
 
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How else can you explain why he talks to my young attractive co workers but not me or not unattractive young ones? Only thin ones with passable to pretty faces. And only older ones if their face and body are perfect.
 
Old 06-12-2018, 09:08 AM
 
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How else can you explain why he talks to my young attractive co workers but not me or not unattractive young ones? Only thin ones with passable to pretty faces. And only older ones if their face and body are perfect.

Because he is a turd. You have a serious problem that has nothing to do with how you look. I suggest counseling because why you give a rats backside about this man is sad.
 
Old 06-12-2018, 09:09 AM
 
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It’s not only this guy. And no I don’t say Hi or smile anymore. It’s seems to happen to me more than once.
 
Old 06-12-2018, 09:12 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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It’s not only this guy. And no I don’t say Hi or smile anymore. It’s seems to happen to me more than once.
Maybe it's you who are giving off a strange vibe, and projecting your insecurities. It's odd that your conclusion of these events is that "I'm ugly" and not "Bob is weird." I've got a coworker who is overly nice to the younger women, and my response is generally an eye-rolly, "the interns are not into you, man. You're their dad's age."
 
Old 06-12-2018, 09:14 AM
 
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It’s not only this guy. And no I don’t say Hi or smile anymore. It’s seems to happen to me more than once.
I get the impression from your previous posts in the Work and Employment Forum that you don't have a good relationship with your co-workers. Maybe him not acknowledging you is part of that. Regardless, it's rude and he should be more polite and return a greeting.
 
Old 06-12-2018, 09:26 AM
 
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I have a good relationship with all my coworkers. Only 1 I have issues with but everyone has it with her.
 
Old 06-12-2018, 09:37 AM
 
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I've got a coworker who is overly nice to the younger women, and my response is generally an eye-rolly, "the interns are not into you, man. You're their dad's age."

Hee hee....snicker snicker.
 
Old 06-12-2018, 09:40 AM
 
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I deal with the public all day long. I meet many that are like your rude coworker, you smile and say hello and they will ignore you just to fall all over a more attractive coworker. When that happens, I speak REALLY LOUD and say hello AGAIN until they HEAR ME and are forced to acknowledge my existence. If they still behave rudely I ask them if they SPEAK ENGLISH. I can be annoyingly relentless. I don't let them have all the power in our interaction. Maybe you should take back some power too?
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