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Plus, many co-workers there are drama queens, but it's because of the bathroom problem and what not, I feel, and feel morale would be better if that issue could be solved.
Also, this is the first time I think that it has been suggested to me to take meds. My doctor gave me the number of a psychotherapist, but meds? Just haven't been on medication like that before, so I would be scared to what it does to my personality.
Plus, many co-workers there are drama queens, but it's because of the bathroom problem and what not, I feel, and feel morale would be better if that issue could be solved.
Also, this is the first time I think that it has been suggested to me to take meds. My doctor gave me the number of a psychotherapist, but meds? Just haven't been on medication like that before, so I would be scared to what it does to my personality.
I have taken something in the past but only resolving to myself that it would be short term. I did more holistic things simultaneously to help relieve the stress and to learn some new coping strategies that would be long term, sustainable solutions. I didn't want to get addicted to anything. You could talk to your therapist or doc about something that would relax you during the day and then help you dose off to sleep. You could try it for a couple of months and then plan to wean off with the doctor's help while also going to therapy. This may help you break the intensely painful cycle of thoughts and accompanying emotions that you have going on right now that is also disrupting your sleep making your days and nights sound pretty hellish. You may want to ask the doc about something to help you relax and sleep in the evenings, and then see if getting more sleep improves your ability to cope at work during the day. Then you may not need anything during the day. Probably the best route is always going to be less medication when possible. You can talk to your therapist or doc about the possibilities and let them know you'd like to be conservative trying out any meds.
The bathroom situation sounds awful and inhumane. Can you complain to a regulating employment agency? Here in the US that would be lawsuit territory.
When I'm feeling like I can't take another second of the place, I remind myself why I am working:
1. Paycheck
2. Profit sharing
3. Health insurance
4. PTO (free money)
5. Bigger SS payment in retirement
My mantra? "Every day I'm here is one day closer to that day when I'm not."
I guess you have to change your attitude about working. Would the alternative (not working) be better? Likely not. Glass half full and all.
Best of luck to you!
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I am fifty years old, and working in professional roles since January 1990, a month out of undergrad. Back then, if one had super-marketable skills and internships, once could rapidly find work. My Plan A went south, but Plan B was right behind it. Life has been good since.
But...work bites. It just bites. There are good months and bad months, or good and bad patches if you will. I have never had a job that paid well, was fun, and left enough time for me to spend time with loved ones or friends or doing things I want. It doesn't exist, that I know of.
Twenty eight years of that...and maybe 9-12 more to go, I'm guessing. Any existentialist will tell you that life is mostly about suffering, and the brief interludes of happiness we grasp in between. Some of us function better under that suffering that others, clearly.
My work solves little, so no consolation there, though one might argue moving corporate systems to Azure, AWS, and Google Cloud is forwarding human interests in at least small ways. But I don't cure the sick, stop war, or help mend divisions in society. I do make good money, and those 2) - 5) mentioned above, at end of the day: that's that.
Deal with it, OP.
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Quit your job. For crying out loud. It's killing you, literally. Chronic stress is actually deadly. Go work somewhere else, anywhere else. Just do it. And on your way out the door, tell your employers that they are violating federal workplace laws.
I think I have some advice that might help.
What would you rather be doing than working. Do you have a passion for the outdoors? Art? Writing?
Sports.? Fishing? Boating? Carpentry? Things that you would love to do more of but you can't when you are at work. Well then work enough at the that job you don't really like so that you can support doing the things you that you like a lot. Worth a try.
Quit your job. For crying out loud. It's killing you, literally. Chronic stress is actually deadly. Go work somewhere else, anywhere else. Just do it. And on your way out the door, tell your employers that they are violating federal workplace laws.
I am looking for a new job, just haven't found one yet, but it's hard to have time to look with a current job, as that limits my time to look for a new one and limits interview availability, so it's been tough.
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Judas priest, what part of the above is hard for OP to understand?
I am fifty years old, and working in professional roles since January 1990, a month out of undergrad. Back then, if one had super-marketable skills and internships, once could rapidly find work. My Plan A went south, but Plan B was right behind it. Life has been good since.
But...work bites. It just bites. There are good months and bad months, or good and bad patches if you will. I have never had a job that paid well, was fun, and left enough time for me to spend time with loved ones or friends or doing things I want. It doesn't exist, that I know of.
Twenty eight years of that...and maybe 9-12 more to go, I'm guessing. Any existentialist will tell you that life is mostly about suffering, and the brief interludes of happiness we grasp in between. Some of us function better under that suffering that others, clearly.
My work solves little, so no consolation there, though one might argue moving corporate systems to Azure, AWS, and Google Cloud is forwarding human interests in at least small ways. But I don't cure the sick, stop war, or help mend divisions in society. I do make good money, and those 2) - 5) mentioned above, at end of the day: that's that.
Deal with it, OP.
How does one deal with it though, without going crazy eventually, what is the thing I am doing wrong in dealing with it?
I am looking for a new job, just haven't found one yet, but it's hard to have time to look with a current job, as that limits my time to look for a new one and limits interview availability, so it's been tough.
So how many interviews have you had to turn down so far?
Stop that defeatist overthinking right now.
You have at least 6-8 non-working, non-sleeping hours a day to "look for a new one." Your brain (attitude) is getting in your way. Can't you see that?
So how many interviews have you had to turn down so far?
Stop that defeatist overthinking right now.
You have at least 6-8 non-working, non-sleeping hours a day to "look for a new one." Your brain (attitude) is getting in your way. Can't you see that?
I've gotten two three call backs in the last few months but by the time I called them back they had got back to me later and told they already hired someone. I felt that if I wasn't working, I wouldn't have missed their calls.
Change your job! For the last two years of teaching, I hated it every day. I was moody and irritable, verge of divorce and like you, I thought it was all normal. It's not. I changed jobs and everything got better. I cannot stress how finding a new job that you enjoy will benefit you.
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