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I think the author's being dramatic about people looking at her tattoos and paying them appropriate attention. If you have visible tattoos and/or other body modifications, people are going to notice and remark on them. That being said, I do understand her being upset over people touching them or crouching down to look at her thighs.
I myself have a tattoo about the size of an index card above my right boob/under my collarbone. It's pretty visible. If I'm not wearing a high-necked shirt, at least part of it is exposed. I've had some compliments and comments by strangers, which I've expected. Nothing creepy, no touching. That's part of having tattoos.
But touching, crouching down to see, etc. is kinda weird.
Let's face it, no one covers themselves with tats just to hide in the bushes!
I expect that except in some exotic cultures and ethnic ceremonial use of tattoos most are intended to be a social transmission of some sort of message. It's like a bumper sticker, except it's on your body. Oh and bumper stickers come off! (lol) Perhaps I'm wrong but I see tattoos and other body art as transmissions of social data such as gang tats (I'm bad ass, don't mess with me) or "style tats" (Kanji and other Chinese/Japanese stuff perceived as cool by some), Celtic knots are kind'a cool! But I can't comprehend by any but a few don't know exactly what they are doing, and I'm pretty certain that all of them are sending some kind of social message.
My own temporary body art (an abstract new age line drawing) is my message that I'm a bit unconventional, and I might be fun. I like a bit of a mock bad boy image knowing that anybody who gets to know me knows I'm a straight arrow. It's okay to bring a bit of role playing into your real life, as long as you remember to be real to the people who matter to you.
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She wanted attention. She got attention. She doesn't like the attention. So, she complains about the attention she is getting!!!
Okay here is my thought experiment. Maybe this is my version of Schrödinger's famous quasi-dead cat quantum physics thought experiment.
Test subject #1: Woman from article in OP exactly as she is now but never got any tats..
Test subject #2: Woman from article, as evidenced by the rant... um, excuse me, I mean her article.
Run each of the above through a day of annoying encounters with men who covet her, who have been conditioned to believe that men who never ask for it never get dates. Factor in something like men having various knowledge and techniques ranging from little and gross, to experienced and sophisticated. Irrespective our two subjects are exposed to the standard, mixed set of men.
My guess is that the subject with the body art might get more attention, but I think she brought that on herself because she must have known getting tats would attract more attention.
And I guess that the subject without the body art would still feel like they get hit on excessively when they don't want it.
For example I just got back from the market. I have a minor illness and I just wanted to grab and run. I would have been bummed out if I encountered an attractive woman whether she or I noticed the other. But I was definitely in a no social mode, skedaddle and get home.
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As for your videos...man, play superficial games with superficial people, win superficial prizes.
Can I get like 3 doors of superficial prizes, and then you open one of the doors and show me something yucky to tease me into which of the other two doors I pick?
Hmm I get that she's kinda annoyed but it wouldn't bother me to talk about mine.it would certainly bother me if people touched them ...when I was pregnant people would just walk up and touch me or ask stupid questions. Ugh
If you wear tattoos publicly, do you get to complain that people look at them?
"You" can complain about whatever you like. While I agree that the author is being a bit dramatic, I think it's disingenuous to act like she's just complaining about them catching people's eye, or about people casually having a look. She's complaining about people making inane comments, touching her, being nosy, invading her space, etc, all of which is rude, tats or no tats.
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She DOES complain about men looking, because (horrors!) they're looking at her body, and that makes her uncomfortable.
She complained about someone 360 circling her and crouching down to get a better look. That's not just "men looking." It's intrusive and has a predatory vibe.
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Let's face it, no one covers themselves with tats just to hide in the bushes!
She wanted attention. She got attention. She doesn't like the attention. So, she complains about the attention she is getting!!!
Congratulations on developing telepathic abilities! Will you being going to work for the CIA, or perhaps joining a circus act? Maybe some masked crimefighting is in your future?
Some people have a nasty attitude towards other people. They don't want to be talked to, and if you try, they act like you have done something horrible to them. Those people...well, if you want to live in that mindset, that is your prerogative I figure. Another thing, too, is I know women who assume (vocally and annoyingly) that every guy who says something casually friendly to them or tries to chat a bit, is some kind of a creeper-stalker out to get them or something. Like men can't just be friendly and bored and want to talk? And even if they do have somewhere in mind that it would be super neat if you ended up dating them or something, that doesn't mean that you can't be nice and chat but say "no thanks" to the rest.
Exactly, there's an article out there somewhere that among the 20-something women, a good percentage actually claimed that even being approached was a form of harassment. Even tasteful compliments. Just Google Henry Cavill's statement on approaching women. He's spot on.
So, the OP was, if you wear tattoos publicly do you get to complain if people talk to you about them.
Sure.
But, it's kind of the same thing where a woman gets to complain if she's treated like a loose woman, if she wears a really short skirt and a really low-cut dress.
No, she wasn't asking to be raped. But, she's guaranteed to get a lot more attention. When a woman wears a really low cut blouse, so her cleavage is front and center, does she get to complain that everyone is looking at her breasts?
No, it doesn't mean anyone can touch them or attack her, etc. But, if you're going to flaunt them, of course people are going to look at them.
And if someone is looking for an excuse to start up a conversation, there it is.
So, if you don't want conversation or someone touching you, just give them the evil eye. Put a whistle on your key chain and blow it loudly if someone bugs you.
I read a great line in a book once, "Just because someone is rude enough to ask a question, doesn't mean I have to answer it."
It's not that hard to shut someone down with a look. So, get good at giving the look that shuts them up. But, expect to have to deal with it on a regular basis. It's just animal nature - if you're different, you will draw attention.
Well, even if a perfect stranger were flamboyantly seeking attention I'm not sure why it would be my business to comment on it to them.
Unless I'm going to genuinely and politely offer an unsolicited compliment it's not my business to engage a stranger in personal remarks or excessive examination regardless of how intrigued I may be, as it seems disrespectful of one's "right" to privacy.
That's not to say that I won't have thoughts to myself or share them discreetly with my partner regarding said attention seeker.
Well, even if a perfect stranger were flamboyantly seeking attention I'm not sure why it would be my business to comment on it to them.
Unless I'm going to genuinely and politely offer an unsolicited compliment it's not my business to engage a stranger in personal remarks or excessive examination regardless of how intrigued I may be, as it seems disrespectful of one's "right" to privacy.
That's not to say that I won't have thoughts to myself or share them discreetly with my partner regarding said attention seeker.
Exactly. I see people all the time with weird piercings weird hair and all kinds of on usual appearance features. Never do I walk up to them and start quizzing them about why they got them and blah blah blah. In a social setting, that is different. I do ask people questions in social settings. But for total strangers to approach anyone ask personal questions is rude. People are acting like because she has these tattoos, she somehow belongs to the world now.
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I like a bit of a mock bad boy image knowing that anybody who gets to know me knows I'm a straight arrow. It's okay to bring a bit of role playing into your real life, as long as you remember to be real to the people who matter to you.
