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To me, it sounds like she's floating around somewhere on the autism scale. Lack of eye contact is the usual give-away.
She wears what she wears because it's something she CAN control, when much of her world feels out of control...or beyond her control. In her sensory over-loaded world, it provides great comfort to BE comfortable. And since she knows her sweats and jacket are comfortable, they are what she relies on.
Her monotone voice might be in reaction to certain pitches and noises bothering her. (shrugging shoulders.)
That's truly wonderful that every female engineer you know also fits your perceived standard of what it is to be female. With every reply OP, I'm increasingly beginning to get the feeling that you aren't interested in hearing our thoughts or possible explanations. You only seem interested in pointing out how "different" this girl is and assigning a psychological condition to her in order to explain it. Does this girl's behavior really make you that uncomfortable? Do you honestly believe that something must be wrong with her because she doesn't look or act the way you think she should?
Sounds like she really loves that jacket. Again, if you're curious ... ask her about it. Maybe there's an interesting story there. Maybe it was a gift or hand-me-down from someone special. Maybe Steve Perry threw it into the crowd one night and she fought 100 other people for it. Maybe she's quietly homeless and has very few options when it comes to outerwear. Maybe what she wears isn't anyone else's business.
Didn't Seinfeld have a show about this? A woman who wore the same dress on every date? It drove him nuts.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 09-05-2018 at 04:37 PM..
To me, it sounds like she's floating around somewhere on the autism scale. Lack of eye contact is the usual give-away.
She wears what she wears because it's something she CAN control, when much of her world feels out of control...or beyond her control. In her sensory over-loaded world, it provides great comfort to BE comfortable. And since she knows her sweats and jacket are comfortable, they are what she relies on.
Her monotone voice might be in reaction to certain pitches and noises bothering her. (shrugging shoulders.)
OK, here we have a theory, a plausible theory. Happy now, OP?
P.S. Whatever you do, don't transfer to Berkeley or Santa Cruz! You'd be miserable, lol.
Lack of vocal inflection and avoidant eye contact are quite often symptoms of sensory integration difficulties, which can be indicators of several disorders (or, they can be indicative of nothing).
I say about people like this "a little aspergery". A light way of saying it but that's because for some time I lived among some brilliant minds who were "a little Sheldony". They weren't boring, though. Many could be a lot of fun, thoughtful, energetic. All different versions in this regard.
The problem would be if your friend has a problem with herself.
Leave your friend be. Let her be who and what she wants to be. Friends like you are the reason many choose not to have friends. Because she's different you ASSume she's got a condition.
I don't get why people are giving OP a hard time. He sees the individual in question on a daily basis, we see her through what OP relayed to us in a couple posts on an anonymous online board. There's obviously something about her that concerns him. Maybe he wants to approach her about it but is unsure how. I didn't perceive anything malicious in his posts. Maybe she's got "something" or maybe she doesn't. It does seem to me from the lack of eye contact and social awkwardness that some form of asd is possible.
How close are you to this person?
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