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Originally Posted by CarolinaMoon1
It seems like this would work best if you are also meeting others - otherwise you're doing whatever the activity is on your own. Which sometimes is fine - I don't mind doing things on my own - but sometimes I would really like some company.
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Yeah, I agree, you need to find other friends who show up on time.
Another option, as a retired person, is to sign up for day bus trips with a group. There are local senior centers where i live that have day bus trips we can sign up for. You can just sign up and show up without having to find a friend to go with. I do these on my own, without knowing anyone else on the trip, and I never have any trouble chatting with others who are on the bus and we always eat together at common dining tables.
So, I can hang out with people and have a great time, without ever having to worry about anyone showing up late or worrying about a friend having a good time, etc.
But, I absolutely refuse to put up with someone affecting my plans by being chronically late. I don't care why they're late.
Just like I wouldn't care why someone had an excuse for behaving badly in any other circumstance. I don't care why you were so drunk that you barfed all over my car, for instance. Or why you ruined the dress I lent you by washing it in hot water without reading the label that it needed to be dry cleaned, on and on.
The bottom line is - you weren't behaving reasonably. Life isn't an excuse contest. I don't care what your excuse is. I expect you to behave in a reasonable, rational, adult manner - and I really don't care what your excuses are for not doing so.
If there's a slight chance that your first excuse might make sense, I might give you another chance. But, I don't even believe in 3 strikes you're out. 2nd chance, maximum now in my book is it for you.
Because I don't have to put up with you. Maybe someone else has to - but I never do.
And by inconveniencing me, you are insulting me in a most egregious way. How dare you? I am just as important as you, and if you don't treat me so, you won't have my company. End of story. if you can find other people who think less of themselves than you think of yourself, have at it. But, I won't be in that group, because I think more highly of myself than someone who is subservient to you.