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a study that was released a couple of months ago, indicates that we dislike hypocrites because they deceive us.
i guess the term hypocrite ranges from a prominent person who takes an opposing stance to what they originally advocated----to a funny friend who eats potato chips while advocating against junk food.
i think the study indicates that people become weary to people they discover to be hypocrites
i think it is interesting
what is your opinion? do you also become weary to a person that you discover to be a hypocrite
a study that was released a couple of months ago, indicates that we dislike hypocrites because they deceive us.
i guess the term hypocrite ranges from a prominent person who takes an opposing stance to what they originally advocated----to a funny friend who eats potato chips while advocating against junk food.
i think the study indicates that people become weary to people they discover to be hypocrites
i think it is interesting
what is your opinion? do you also become weary to a person that you discover to be a hypocrite
excuse unedited cell phone grammar and incomplete cell phone sentence
Makes sense to me. I usually end up being wary of people who think one thing but say or act out another. They don't trust me enough to act in a genuine manner so it sort of begs the question whether I should trust them. But it also comes down to the motivation behind it...if someone tells a white lie to spare my feelings (oh you look great in that dress) that's one thing. If someone lies because they want some sort of advantage over me (I never eat potato chips like you do because it is stupid) that's another.
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What I really dislike is the money spent on useless "studies" that tell us what we already know...even more so than I dislike a hypocrite.
Only about 2 billion dollars a years goes to psych research (federally funded) and this is a single study - maybe you disagree that anything should be spent but ...oh well...I don't like my tax dollars spent on a Trump parade...back to the topic.
The results were a bit more nuanced than that - sure - we don't like hypocrites but that can be based on several facets:
Intuitively, it seems that we might dislike hypocrites because their word is inconsistent with their behavior, because they lack the self-control to behave according to their own morals, or because they deliberately engage in behaviors that they know to be morally wrong. All of these explanations seem plausible, but the new findings suggest that it's the misrepresentation of their moral character that really raises our ire.
I don't dislike them because I feel deceived. I dislike them because they're a conjunction of holier-than-though judgmental attitude sometimes, and utter lack of realism or self awareness about their own actions and choices.
One person I am thinking of...
Says that the "welfare state" in this country is just a bunch of lazy people demanding handouts and they all need to get a job and stop trying to get money from the government. Yet... He has benefited from both welfare and private charity in his adult lifetime. And he's been on unemployment a number of times and doesn't make sincere efforts to find work until it runs out. And he took the government's money in abundance when in the military, and gets VA disability now.
"Handouts" are fine if they are landing in his hands, but they're despicable going to anyone else. Especially single mothers. We all know after all, that they conned the guy just to pop out a baby and get on the dole.
He constantly goes on and on complaining about women lying to him and cheating on him. But he has lied (and been caught lying a number of very significant times) and cheated (and, again, been caught doing so) yet he insists that he is Mr. "Honor, Loyalty, Integrity" and women are evil betrayers and men don't cheat like women do. If there is no evidence that a particular women has wronged him in this way, he will make some up and insist it is true.
Lying is fine, but only when he's doing it.
It is the ugliest kind of projection. A wise person told me, "That which you criticize in others, is in fact that which you hate about yourself but are unwilling to confront." I think it's true.
Indeed... it's one reason I dislike so many Hollywood types and big CEOs that tout a liberal position, point their fingers at us about how bad we are for driving a pickup truck, while they fly around in private jets and live in huge mansions.
Actually dislike isn't the right word... I don't really dislike anyone, or try not too.. amused would be a better word... watching the whole pop culture circus play itself out.
I don't dislike them because I feel deceived. I dislike them because they're a conjunction of holier-than-though judgmental attitude sometimes, and utter lack of realism or self awareness about their own actions and choices.
One person I am thinking of...
Says that the "welfare state" in this country is just a bunch of lazy people demanding handouts and they all need to get a job and stop trying to get money from the government. Yet... He has benefited from both welfare and private charity in his adult lifetime. And he's been on unemployment a number of times and doesn't make sincere efforts to find work until it runs out. And he took the government's money in abundance when in the military, and gets VA disability now.
"Handouts" are fine if they are landing in his hands, but they're despicable going to anyone else. Especially single mothers. We all know after all, that they conned the guy just to pop out a baby and get on the dole.
He constantly goes on and on complaining about women lying to him and cheating on him. But he has lied (and been caught lying a number of very significant times) and cheated (and, again, been caught doing so) yet he insists that he is Mr. "Honor, Loyalty, Integrity" and women are evil betrayers and men don't cheat like women do. If there is no evidence that a particular women has wronged him in this way, he will make some up and insist it is true.
Lying is fine, but only when he's doing it.
It is the ugliest kind of projection. A wise person told me, "That which you criticize in others, is in fact that which you hate about yourself but are unwilling to confront." I think it's true.
personally, i would live off of what was discarded. if i became poor, i would opt to live without money, charity or assistance
i would opt to live this way to be simple, not stoic
it is practical, not deprecating
it is not deprecation or the life of a degenerate. it is harmless; it could develop to be an americans pursuit of happines. i can care less about money because i dont have children to develop to be future team players.
We hold these truths to be self-evident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
--thomas jefferson
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