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Agreed. There is "not" somebody out there for everyone. That's something normal people say. There's optimism and then there's realism. If that person is out there, you may never find them. As long as the ratio of men to women is around 50/50, there's always going to be men who don't make the cut.. it's simple genetics at work. A good chunk of men out there are not funny, ambitious, well traveled, etc.
I am 27 and never had a girlfriend or any sort of relationship with a woman so this is pretty much a non-issue.
However, even if a woman openly stated her interest in me, I would never be able to believe it. A part of me would always remind me that it couldn't possibly be true.
Is this weird in some way?
It's the vibe you give off. Confidence is everything to a woman. Even if you don't feel that confident (and shyness is okay to admit).....Let me give you a few tips: Make sure by the 3rd date to kiss her or make an attempt. If you ask her out 3 times and she accepts all of them, make sure to show her in some way you are interested or she will give up and think you are not...A few things a woman will do, if she likes you. is want to be physically near you, look into your eyes a lot and hope you "do something" so that she knows you are interested in her. For women, wondering how it would feel to kiss you, means everything.
Also, check your hygiene. Teeth. Hair. Body. Make sure when you go on your date to be clean. (it really does matter) Have you asked out many girls and if so, what was there response? Ask questions here, I think most here would like to help you to feel more at ease with going out with a woman.
Agreed. There is "not" somebody out there for everyone. That's something normal people say. There's optimism and then there's realism. If that person is out there, you may never find them. As long as the ratio of men to women is around 50/50, there's always going to be men who don't make the cut.. it's simple genetics at work. A good chunk of men out there are not funny, ambitious, well traveled, etc.
There could be someone out there, but if you don't put yourself out there, it's not going to happen.
If you are socially awkward, shy, have limited to no social skills, no social circle, only participate in individual hobbies, keep to yourself when out, or don't go out, it's you that are blocking yourself from opportunities that could exist.
For all the people who want to blame looks, the harsh reality is that personality, or lack thereof, is what is holding so many back. It's comfortable to want to think it's your looks. Accepting that you need to work on your personality is too much effort for some. If you don't think you're worth the effort, then you definitely won't have the effort to find a date, let alone maintain a relationship. Why would someone want to be with you when you're not in a place to offer anything to them, and don't seem to like yourself?
It's the vibe you give off. Confidence is everything to a woman. Even if you don't feel that confident (and shyness is okay to admit).....Let me give you a few tips: Make sure by the 3rd date to kiss her or make an attempt. If you ask her out 3 times and she accepts all of them, make sure to show her in some way you are interested or she will give up and think you are not...A few things a woman will do, if she likes you. is want to be physically near you, look into your eyes a lot and hope you "do something" so that she knows you are interested in her. For women, wondering how it would feel to kiss you, means everything.
I always walk my date to her car. Even on a first date I go for a kiss goodnight. I've failed in getting that first date kiss just once this year. I'll guess I've had just under 20 first dates this year so far.
I agree that confidence is all. Women don't respect weak/meek men. I'm always a gentleman and I've never forced myself on a woman. I think I'm getting about 50% second dates. I'm leaving no doubt that I'm interested. It's up to her to decide if she feels the same.
There could be someone out there, but if you don't put yourself out there, it's not going to happen.
If you are socially awkward, shy, have limited to no social skills, no social circle, only participate in individual hobbies, keep to yourself when out, or don't go out, it's you that are blocking yourself from opportunities that could exist.
For all the people who want to blame looks, the harsh reality is that personality, or lack thereof, is what is holding so many back. It's comfortable to want to think it's your looks. Accepting that you need to work on your personality is too much effort for some. If you don't think you're worth the effort, then you definitely won't have the effort to find a date, let alone maintain a relationship. Why would someone want to be with you when you're not in a place to offer anything to them, and don't seem to like yourself?
I'm pretty sure there were people who put themselves out there and still had no success.
I'm pretty sure the love of your life will not come to your front door and ring your door bell. ... I dunno, do you want to convert to LDS?
It is perfectly okay to not want a mate, that's a personal choice. But if you want a mate you're going to have to work for it.
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Make sure by the 3rd date to kiss her or make an attempt. If you ask her out 3 times and she accepts all of them, make sure to show her in some way you are interested or she will give up and think you are not...A few things a woman will do, if she likes you. is want to be physically near you, look into your eyes a lot and hope you "do something" so that she knows you are interested in her. For women, wondering how it would feel to kiss you, means everything. 
