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You know, C-D doesn't charge us by the word to post. How about giving us a few more details – all at once – without posters having to ask questions like we're on a game show?
I'm his father's friend.
I just want to know why he adores his big brother than the other siblings?
The family is comprised of a 26-year old son, a 25-year old daughter, a 22-year old son, a 19-year old daughter and a 8-year old son. 3 sons, 2 daughters.
The father was born in 1967, the mother born 1971. The two got married while in college.
Well, look. The 26 year old IS the "big brother" to all the other kids, too. He was the first born and about 18 when the 8 year old came along. Why SHOULDN'T the kid look up to him?
None of us can really say why but they seem to have a special bond. Maybe their personalities are similar. Maybe big brother gives him more attention and makes him feel special. Siblings relate to each other differently than they do to their parents.
What else do you expect us to be able to uncover or explain?
What kind of question is this? There's an 8 year old boy who looks up to his 26 year old brother and you're asking people on an internet forum why that is. How is anyone supposed to know the circumstances of these two and anyone else in their lives? Also, unless the OP is totally oblivious to human nature, they should know that growing up, kids commonly look up to people in their family older than them. If you're going to ask a question like this at least provide a few details.
Because parents are ... a buzzkill. We are boring. When we try to not be boring; we are even worse: Embarrassing.
When I was 8; I used to dread having to grow up & watch the news, complain about the neighbors & balance a checkbook. 26 year olds have all of the good stuff about being an adult without any of the drudgery.
I don’t know the dynamics between these family members but my boys are 15, 24, 25, 26, 28, 30 & 33 (next month) & I know that the older ones have never told the younger ones to clean their room, turn anything down, not to talk with their mouth full, go to sleep, don’t use that language, etc ...
I do know that the older ones are who taught the younger ones how to do “high-5’s”, “gimme dabs”, “that” language & that within 5 minutes of walking through the door, they will look at little bro, yell; RAAURGH!! Jump over the coffee table, wrestle him to the floor & start tickling him & then I will yell at everybody to; “ Stop getting him all riled up!”
And they will ignore me & get away with it. And to a kid; that’s awesome.
Perhaps of all the family members, the 26 year old brother has the most animated, charismatic personality, has the physical ability and is willing to do fun things with the 8 year old, doesn't have any responsibility for disciplining him, and has never viewed him as an annoying pest. That's at least one possible scenario.
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Originally Posted by coschristi
Because parents are ... a buzzkill. We are boring. When we try to not be boring; we are even worse: Embarrassing.
When I was 8; I used to dread having to grow up & watch the news, complain about the neighbors & balance a checkbook. 26 year olds have all of the good stuff about being an adult without any of the drudgery.
I don’t know the dynamics between these family members but my boys are 15, 24, 25, 26, 28, 30 & 33 (next month) & I know that the older ones have never told the younger ones to clean their room, turn anything down, not to talk with their mouth full, go to sleep, don’t use that language, etc ...
I do know that the older ones are who taught the younger ones how to do “high-5’s”, “gimme dabs”, “that” language & that within 5 minutes of walking through the door, they will look at little bro, yell; RAAURGH!! Jump over the coffee table, wrestle him to the floor & start tickling him & then I will yell at everybody to; “ Stop getting him all riled up!”
And they will ignore me & get away with it. And to a kid; that’s awesome.
Nothing could give more life to my points than Coschristi's post.
Why do you say you are a friend of the father, and not a friend of both the father and the mother? If you have more than one sibling, are you closer to one than the other? Are there people at work that you'd rather spend time with compared to other coworkers?
Answer: individuals like/admire/respect certain individuals more than other individuals--human nature. In the case of the young boy looking up to his only brother the most, that's just normal.
Is this worse than idolizing a ballplayer that you've never met that might be a first class jerk in real life?
Worse than idolizing some made up superhero that only exists on TV, the movies or in a book?
I just want to know why he adores his big brother than the other siblings?
Then you'll have to ask him. The answer is personal to their relationship and we're not psychic. No one here can give you a definite answer, we can only offer possibilities and speculation, of which you've already received a numerous amount.
Why is that the case in some families. A young 8 year old boy looks to his oldest brother, 26 years old as his idol and hero. Why?
I worshipped the ground my older brother walked on (7 years difference). In my case, I lost my dad when I was young, so he became the male older figure I craved. But also most little kids admire grown up siblings, and older kids in general. Gang members abuse this tendency in getting younger kids into gang life before they're old enough to know they're being manipulated.
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