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Lately I've found myself nostalgic for the 90s. That was the era when I grew up. It seems strange since I didn't particularly enjoy my teen years but lately I have been really nostalgic for that time period. I will be 38 this year. Do you think this could be a sign of an impending midlife crisis?
I'm younger, but am quite nostalgic for my college years, despite them being just a few years ago. There's this almost omnipresent "vintage glow" and feeling of coziness whenever I think back, even during times I was struggling. Sometimes I also feel nostalgic for places in time I never experienced. Been feeling pretty nostalgic for the 2000s and early 2010s for a while, particularly for places I never lived in during that time. I find keeping myself busy with fun and work gives me less time to ponder.
Wouldn't call it a midlife crisis. You were at a different place in your life than you are now. "Midlife crisis" is when people act foolish in the face of these nostalgic feelings. You can't turn back the clock by behaving differently.
I can think of many people who look fondly back at times when they had less complicated lives, knew less (ignorance *IS* bliss, it's not just a put-down), had to make fewer life-altering decisions and you didn't know what you didn't know and that was OK...the worst part is that even though you didn't see yourself as happy then, you may have been happier than you are now and you had no idea (my current state!). I hate to admit it but when my mother says "life was better before the internet..." I would have to agree.
Wait until you get to a point where more people you know are dead than alive, your Christmases are quieter, your childhood happy places are knocked down for pure entertainment of town boards made of people half your age or twice your age trying to cater to people half your age...then the nostalgia really takes a toll.
Lately I've found myself nostalgic for the 90s. That was the era when I grew up. It seems strange since I didn't particularly enjoy my teen years but lately I have been really nostalgic for that time period. I will be 38 this year. Do you think this could be a sign of an impending midlife crisis?
Sure. I'm 51 and get all misty-eyed over certain 80s rock bands and songs. That was "my" era, though the early 90's surely rocked, too.
Yep, that nostalgia seems to be inevitable. These songs drive specific emotions and situations I remember with (what seems like) clarity. Memory is notorious, though. No matter, it's my fun and I'll embrace it.
Nothing wrong with current day, but those were heady days for me, too.
it helps when the present doesn't look so great. perspective on what happened before, and how things managed to work out anyway. oh, and remembering pleasant experiences to feel happy...nothing i can see 'wrong' with that. better than feeling regrets and pessimism better left in the past.
Yep, I'm feeling it for the 70s/80s. We didn't have as much in many ways, yet actually had more time to just live. I compare my growing up to my kids and while they had a lot, they missed a lot was well. It seems like every day for them was scheduled. School, sports, whatever. And we recognized it as the time but couldn't find a way around it because every other kids was also scheduled. Their friends were all on teams and the only way they could play was to be on the team with them.
Yep, I'm feeling it for the 70s/80s. We didn't have as much in many ways, yet actually had more time to just live. I compare my growing up to my kids and while they had a lot, they missed a lot was well. It seems like every day for them was scheduled. School, sports, whatever. And we recognized it as the time but couldn't find a way around it because every other kids was also scheduled. Their friends were all on teams and the only way they could play was to be on the team with them.
I think it's sad how much kids are scheduled these days. It's gotten to the point I don't even attempt to socialize with parents. All parents seem to do now is ferry their kids around town.
I think it's sad how much kids are scheduled these days. It's gotten to the point I don't even attempt to socialize with parents. All parents seem to do now is ferry their kids around town.
How much different were things back then? When I was a kid in the 2000s, I was ferried around a lot. Piano. Aikido. Soccer. I felt constantly "in motion". Partly the reason why, when I was maybe 21, said to my dad I wanted to move to Portland because "they were less objective out there" (quite silly to say, in retrospect).
An extremely interesting article I think you may like is linked below. It concerns how much parenting has changed, and how, in an effort to "prep" their children for success, they sacrifice much:
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