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Old 01-11-2019, 04:11 PM
 
Location: Illinois USA
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Ok guys and girls dont make fun of me

but I feel like I'm too hormonal or pregnant

for last few yrs I have become way too sensitive when I see human suffering ( but ONLY when I see young men, male children or boys suffer)

by suffering I mean violent deaths , esp torture , starvation ,etc not emotional suffering

whether I read about it in news , history books, see it on TV , movies even , or someone tells me about it

it REALLY really affects me , for hours sometimes days afterwards

but NOT suffering of females

its really weird

now I'm not male chauvinist either , Ive had plenty of great female role models in my life mother sister cousins and even my baby mama and i have great relationships with them

Its now really bothering me as anything like a bad movie scene or yahoo news article can ruin my whole day

any ideas ?
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Old 01-11-2019, 04:37 PM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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Your username is "Dad01" so I'm going to guess you're a father. Do you have a son? Or daughter? I don't think it's unusual for people to feel a great increase in their empathy for all children when they become parents. I think particularly if you have a son and not a daughter, that would explain why your empathy for boys and young men has increased so much. You probably see the suffering of boys and can put yourself in the position of their father, you're feeling what it would be like if those boys were your boy.
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Old 01-11-2019, 04:46 PM
 
Location: planet earth
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Look up HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) - there's lots of literature and a book. Aron is the author.
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Old 01-12-2019, 09:36 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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You say, you've noticed this only in the last few years? Why do you think that is?
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Old 01-12-2019, 11:11 PM
 
Location: Illinois USA
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I'm not sure
even as a kid I was more sensitive but in the last 10 yrs Ive noticed it a lot more
hell I walked out as guys were playing "call of duty" and I couldnt stand shooting men even in a game
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Old Today, 09:10 AM
 
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Are you saying that if it were to see young women and girls suffering horrific acts of violence and torture...starvation etc that it doesn't effect you?
Have you watched "bad movies" or films about girls being hurt and suffering (not just films on boys and young men) and still feel no sadness?
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Old Today, 11:46 AM
 
Location: Colorado
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As I'm finding more and more, when something "triggers" me (and I don't like the mocking use of that term) or in other words, when I have an emotional response that does not seem logical given the circumstances... Normally if I think about it enough, I find it is an echo of something from my childhood. As such I am actually grateful for my triggers, because they allow me to become more self aware. When I discover one of these things, I can examine it and make sense of it, and usually get more control over my responses.

And it might not be an exact parallel, for instance even if you never saw a man or boy die when you were a kid, or were tortured or something...if someone who was your caregiver treated you or your father as expendable, or said things that inadvertently coded the message that they didn't care if you suffered...when you NEEDED them to care... Or if you saw graphic violence at a young age, even in movies, when you were too young to process it... I would not be surprised if there's something like that, buried in your brain programming, that is causing this response.

It would also make complete sense for these mental subroutines to wake up and gain power if you have recently become a parent or caregiver, especially of a boy or boys.
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