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Old 01-11-2019, 11:31 PM
 
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Your mind probably works very fast. You're probably really smart. And imaginative. What are you studying?
I think it's normal for some people. Of course acting on those thoughts is a whole 'nother thing!
Believe it or not, it is possible to control one's thoughts.
Do that.
Electrical engineering.

I do not dwell on these thoughts for too long unless I am really pissed off. I guess I am somewhat spiteful.
Just to clarify, I imagine those things when someone has annoyed me for a very long time or done something I consider cruel. Not bumping with someone while walking on the streets. And most of what I imagine I do so spontaneously.
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Old 01-11-2019, 11:36 PM
 
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I do not dwell on these thoughts for too long unless I am really pissed off. I guess I am somewhat spiteful.

Just to clarify, I imagine those things when someone has annoyed me for a very long time or done something I consider cruel. Not bumping with someone while walking on the streets. And most of what I imagine I do so spontaneously.
It kind of makes me think you don't feel you can yell at someone.

Is this from some frustration at not feeling like you can convey your anger verbally?
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Old Yesterday, 03:37 AM
 
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The only thing that would make me think there may be a issue is that you are carrying a weapon.
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Old Yesterday, 10:00 AM
 
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As my father would have said: Everyone has these thoughts occasionally, what is important is not to dwell on them.

If you are dwelling on them and its taking up a considerable part of your time than you should seek therapy.
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Old Yesterday, 10:15 AM
 
Location: Loudon, TN
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I used to fantasize about sneaking into my ex's house and doing something to cause him and his new lady (whom he cheated with) to get severe diarhhea. I hope that doesn't make me evil.
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Old Yesterday, 10:32 AM
 
Location: Colorado (PA at heart)
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Definitely not normal and you should seek professional therapy. Having passed a psych test for carrying a weapon does not necessarily mean your thoughts are normal or healthy, or that you shouldn't seek help, especially if the test wasn't asking the right questions pertaining to this, or you weren't being 100% honest.

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Electrical engineering.

I do not dwell on these thoughts for too long unless I am really pissed off. I guess I am somewhat spiteful.
Just to clarify, I imagine those things when someone has annoyed me for a very long time or done something I consider cruel. Not bumping with someone while walking on the streets. And most of what I imagine I do so spontaneously.
What do you consider cruel? Can you give us an example (not just an example of what you don't find cruel)? I do find it a little odd that you seem to be feeling there are so many people around you who do such cruel things - maybe my perception of how many people you feel this way about is off though.
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Old Yesterday, 03:59 PM
 
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It might be understandable, but definitely not healthy.

I second the recommendation for CBT. That stands for cognitive behavioral therapy.

Also, there's a classic book on the topic called Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns. It was written in 1980 but is still pretty popular today, for good reason.
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Old Yesterday, 04:00 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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It's pretty normal for me.
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Old Yesterday, 05:57 PM
 
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Hi,

I am a 23 year old male. University student.

As any person sometimes I am bothered by things people do to me with ill intentions. Sometimes I fantasize about doing very, very cruel things to them. A lot worse than what they do to me. Most of the things I imagine are physical tortures. This happens from time to time, specially when I focus on the things they have done to me. Is this kind of behavior normal in the majority of people/males or should I try to change this behavior?

I carry a weapon for self-defense, so I have done the psychological test for it multiple times, which I guess means I am not crazy. Outside of my fantasies I am a very calmed person. I always avoid fighting, and getting angry to the point of losing control almost never happens. So I wonder why there is such a huge difference between my behavior in real life and what I fantasize sometimes.
You need to get some professional help. Seriously. Go speak to somebody
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Old Yesterday, 07:47 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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I do this at night before falling asleep, or if I wake up during the night. For some reason it helps me relax & fall asleep. I know I should stop though
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