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Old 02-01-2019, 06:54 AM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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But I want to be accepted for how I look.
We have no idea how you look like, but I don't think that's the biggest red flag. Perhaps you have character flaws, low self esteem and low standards?
You already come off as desperate. Guys don't like desperate...
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Old 02-01-2019, 07:10 AM
 
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We have no idea how you look like, but I don't think that's the biggest red flag. Perhaps you have character flaws, low self esteem and low standards?
You already come off as desperate. Guys don't like desperate...
This.

No one likes desperate.
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Old 02-01-2019, 08:04 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I frustrates me that I don't get dates because I 'm not attractive at all.
What are you doing to try to meet guys and go out?
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Old 02-01-2019, 08:09 AM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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I frustrates me that I don't get dates because I 'm not attractive at all.

It seems that you are obsessed with your undefined "unattractiveness". Men can sense it too.
Work on your self esteem.

BTW: define why are you not attractive?
Physical appearance could be improved - little make-up, different hairstyle, better fitting, tasteful clothes, attention to diet and weight goes a long way...
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Old 02-01-2019, 09:01 AM
 
Location: Ft. Myers
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Maybe too many guys are "having you" ...
That's not very appealing to most.
Whoops ! My thoughts, exactly.
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Old 02-01-2019, 09:15 AM
 
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I frustrates me that I don't get dates because I 'm not attractive at all.


You know...maybe you'd benefit from the beauty and fashion sub forum. I'm not trying to be flippant about it. For real, maybe if you read some of the threads there, it'll give you some good ideas to try. And maybe it would help you feel better to know we all have areas that we want to improve on, etc.


You know...when I was 18ish, I decided I needed to start plucking my eyebrows. They were thick, dark, and I kind of had a unibrow going on .


Plucking my eyebrows did a whole lot for my self esteem, because it made me feel 'normal' and gave me some more self confidence.


Sometimes, it's the little things.


Anyway, I encourage you to check out the fashion forum. Take care.
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Old 02-01-2019, 09:23 AM
 
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I want guys to accept me for how I look.
They probably would...if YOU would.
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Old 02-01-2019, 11:57 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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Stop caring what others think so much.

Work on loving yourself.

This will help you improve your attitude.

Lots of guys love a girl with a nice confident attitude and personality. Looks don't have to be all that if you are a wonderful person.

Keep your chin up.
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Old 02-01-2019, 12:17 PM
 
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Going by your replies on this thread, probably you bore guys with your one-liners.

Discussions are more than that. They are not merely a 5 year old's repetition of what (s)he wants.
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Old 02-01-2019, 03:29 PM
 
Location: Riverside Ca
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It frustrates me that guys might not be happy with having me?
Are they “having you” on the first date?
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