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Old 05-12-2019, 08:50 PM
 
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I also never understood why whenever someone is outside waiting for a store to open, the doors being locked, and that person is first or one of a few in line, the later arrivals still walk to the doors and tries to pull open the doors only to find them locked.
I've actually done this...walked up and opened the door and went in...usually the people standing there first aren't paying attention. They are looking at their phones.
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Old 05-12-2019, 09:20 PM
 
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I know people like that. This one woman that is a friend of ours is always asking for advice on anything from what to have for breakfast to what kind of car to buy. It'll go something like "you eat here a lot, should I go with the omelot or the pancakes?" - well the omelot is their signature dish and my fave. Waitress comes and she says "I'll have the French toast". I've learned to not waste a brain cell on it and just say anything.


What also gets me are people who do something and then look for validation of it. They will say "I just spent $$$ on such-and-such, do you think I got a good deal?" Um, the time for advice was before you made the decision, it's a done deal now.
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Old 05-13-2019, 12:35 AM
 
Location: Tucson Arizona
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I think most people just need a push to make up their minds. You express your opinion, and it makes them realize what they want. They could do it without you, but aren't that organized, or want the connection with another person.

Thought process goes something like this:
(Them) Should I wear black or pink?
(You) Wear the pink.
(Them) okay, pink. But last time I wore the pink, that weird guy hit on me. I'd better wear the black so I'm not so noticeable.

You are helping, just not the way you expected.,
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Old 05-13-2019, 02:02 AM
 
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Then there are the people who do this constantly...they are called Askholes.
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Old 05-13-2019, 03:42 AM
 
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power of persuasion.

Sometimes the giver wants to think they have such empowerment. Then are disappointed when their magical power doesn't work.

which sums up this topic of "why don't ppl think that my response is the greatest, most astounding, response they ever heard!"

as the ole saying goes, keep giving away your two cents when all someone wanted was a penny for your thought.
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Old 05-13-2019, 08:19 AM
 
Location: east TN
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Yeah, they just want to check what someone else thinks.



Nah...I think they want confirmation of what they have already decided to do, and if they don't get it, they ignore what you said and do it anyway.


As Simon and Garfunkel sang "A man hears what he wants to hear, and disregards the rest..."
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Old 05-13-2019, 08:42 AM
 
Location: So Cal
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Many times advice seeking is really more of an act of confirming and validating their already made up minds.
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Old 05-13-2019, 09:14 AM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston
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Example:

Today I was at a laundromat putting loads in the dryer. A man came up to me and said, "How much would the dryer be to make the load completely dry?"

Answer: "Oh, about 75 cents. It is a hot dryer."

He puts in $1.50 in. I shrugged and waited for my loads to dry. They dried perfectly. While I'm folding, his load is finished. He opened the dryer. Reached in. He jerked back his hands in pain. Then grumbled while he put each item one at a time in a basket wincing.

Another is a woman I knew a long time ago.

"What top should I wear? The black one or the pink one?"

"Hm. The black one."

She puts on the pink one.

Why do people do this?

If you don't want my advice, why bother asking in the first place?
Probably the same reasons like the people who come here to our forums, ask questions, waste our time while we try to give the best advice or search for info, and do exactly the opposite, ignore our advice, or start to be combative because the advice isn't what they want to hear.
They are ignorants, like to start arguments or had already made their mind before they asked the question. I don't know. Lots of people are nut cases, or like to annoy others.
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Old 05-13-2019, 10:01 AM
 
Location: east TN
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Probably the same reasons like the people who come here to our forums, ask questions, waste our time while we try to give the best advice or search for info, and do exactly the opposite, ignore our advice, or start to be combative because the advice isn't what they want to hear.

ahahaaaaaaa.....true observation !!


The ones that really tickle me are those clearly seeking location specific, or legal advise.
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Old 05-13-2019, 12:36 PM
 
Location: Mars City
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In the end, people just do what they want. Asking for advice is good though, even if ultimately ignored.
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