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Old 07-04-2019, 03:37 PM
Location: East Midlands, UK
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Originally Posted by Larry Caldwell View Post
Not everyone has an irrational fear of death, and the older you get the less you worry about it.

My mother died at 95. She was getting pretty elderly, but living independently with help from her family and hired help. When she was 94, she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. If you are not familiar with it, treatment is ineffective. Mom also had a pacemaker coming up for a battery replacement. She made the entirely rational decision that she would rather die from heart failure than cancer, so she refused the new battery. The cardiologist told her she would die without the pacemaker, and she said that was exactly what she wanted.

The pacemaker died, and she didn't, though she got very weak. This was not her desired outcome, so she quit taking all her meds. That did it. She stroked out and died less than a month later. She let her grandkids, nieces, nephews, friends and neighbors know she was about to die. Everyone got to visit and say goodbye. I think it was a little shocking for the young folks, but those of us already past retirement age were supportive of her decision.

She could have possibly lived for another couple years, but what have been the point? The cancer would have progressed. She would have lived in daily agony, unable to care for herself. She met death on her own terms.
Hugs. I admire your way of thinking. Sorry for your loss though.
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Old 07-05-2019, 05:27 PM
Location: Southwest Washington State
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Originally Posted by celticseas View Post
I think maybe I meant to say that when it comes to suicide, people always speak ill of the person instantly as opposed to the murderer.

Again, all I'm saying is that it's rare to hear a murderer called "selfish" "coward" compared to a suicidal person.
No wed call a mass murderer worse names.
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