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Old 07-06-2019, 04:09 PM
 
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I was triggered today, and am still feeling the effects, so thought I would write about it.

What it feels like: Emotional and physical pain.

When you are triggered it points to something unhealed in you (this is obvious, but it's tempting to blame the person who triggered you for "making you feel that way."

I realized what triggered me (hearing stories of someone I love when they were in distress - I witnessed some of these incidents, and heard about others).

I have many tools in my arsenal to deal with being triggered: Aromatherapy, EFT, Epsom salts bath, massage, journaling, etc.

It's a very unpleasant experience, because when you are triggered, chemicals get released into the bloodstream - cortisol and others.

It used to take me a full day to recover from being triggered. Now it is much shorter.
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Old 07-11-2019, 01:28 PM
 
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Good for you!! it can take time to figure this out if you haven't been given time to process it by others who take reactions for granted because they haven't shared yr experience triggers.
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Old 07-11-2019, 01:34 PM
 
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Good for you!! it can take time to figure this out if you haven't been given time to process it by others who take reactions for granted because they haven't shared yr experience triggers.
Not sure what you're saying. The only thing I have done is become aware of when I have been triggered (can't seem to predict or stop it from occurring) and then minimize effects through self-care techniques.
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Old 07-12-2019, 10:02 AM
 
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I read a great book on Emotional Intelligence a few years back that you may find interesting. There may be newer editions out now.
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Old 07-12-2019, 02:45 PM
 
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i just meant that triggers often happen in encounters with other people who sometimes don't understand them. in my experience, i just let them know and don't expect them to understand

something out of their own experience. then i take the time to take care of myself rather than
expect myself to adjust 'automatically'. the time away from the triggering situation makes it easier to reflect on it without distractions, and then whatever i do for myself has a chance to
'settle in'.

overall better for honest communication, because real life doesn't have a "script" for unexpected triggers. ; )
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Old Today, 08:02 AM
 
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I have to resolve what's bubbling right under the surface. then triggers aren't so effective.
There;s a whole movement going on about this stuff... we're all learning and growing...
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Old Today, 10:47 AM
 
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i just meant that triggers often happen in encounters with other people who sometimes don't understand them. in my experience, i just let them know and don't expect them to understand

something out of their own experience. then i take the time to take care of myself rather than
expect myself to adjust 'automatically'. the time away from the triggering situation makes it easier to reflect on it without distractions, and then whatever i do for myself has a chance to
'settle in'.

overall better for honest communication, because real life doesn't have a "script" for unexpected triggers. ; )
Thank you for explaining. I know everything that happens within me is "my problem," so I don't involve other people.

The self-care piece is HUGE - giving yourself permission to do self-care, and forgiving yourself (essentially) for still being unhealed and having wounds that can be triggered!

For me, self-care is also having distance from this person I am so easily triggered by (and working on the core issues in therapy).
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Old Today, 10:48 AM
 
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I have to resolve what's bubbling right under the surface. then triggers aren't so effective.
There;s a whole movement going on about this stuff... we're all learning and growing...
It's hard because after you have been triggered and are no longer feeling the effects there is resistance to going back to the wound to explore it - but I am doing this bit by bit in therapy.
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Old Today, 10:49 AM
 
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I read a great book on Emotional Intelligence a few years back that you may find interesting. There may be newer editions out now.
Thank you for sharing what worked for you.
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