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Old 07-08-2019, 09:37 PM
 
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I have a male friend who is married, and they both have a son, and the son looks nothing him or the wife, race wise. They are white, where as the son looks very African, at least to me.

However, my friend seems to buy that the kid is completely his and I wonder if he is so in love with the kid, that he it never occurred to him how black the kid looks compared to him or his wife?

I wonder if this is normal among parents though, like a syndrome if you will, where as they are in love with their child, and do not realize it's probably not theirs, no matter how unlike you they look?
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Old 07-08-2019, 11:40 PM
 
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Some people are oblivious to the possibility the child may not be theirs. This is because never in a million years would they think their partner cheated. As far as an official syndrome, I have never heard of such but how bout "ironpony" syndrome? It's an unspoken rule that those that "discover" get to name ...its your call.
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Old Yesterday, 12:37 AM
 
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I have a male friend who is married, and they both have a son, and the son looks nothing him or the wife, race wise. They are white, where as the son looks very African, at least to me.

However, my friend seems to buy that the kid is completely his and I wonder if he is so in love with the kid, that he it never occurred to him how black the kid looks compared to him or his wife?

I wonder if this is normal among parents though, like a syndrome if you will, where as they are in love with their child, and do not realize it's probably not theirs, no matter how unlike you they look?
Well, maybe they know something they have chosen not to share. Traits do show up from past generations too. Have you seen all their family pictures to know for certain this child doesn't resemble anyone? Why does it matter to anyone but them?
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Old Yesterday, 08:17 AM
 
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I have a male friend who is married, and they both have a son, and the son looks nothing him or the wife, race wise. They are white, where as the son looks very African, at least to me.

However, my friend seems to buy that the kid is completely his and I wonder if he is so in love with the kid, that he it never occurred to him how black the kid looks compared to him or his wife?

I wonder if this is normal among parents though, like a syndrome if you will, where as they are in love with their child, and do not realize it's probably not theirs, no matter how unlike you they look?
I have a cousin, who looks nothing like her parents. She has a dark complexion, and in her teens, her hair turned kind of frizzy, when she grew it out really long. Now she keeps it short, so it looks more straight, or slightly wavy. I heard, that after giving birth, when they showed her her child in the hospital, her mom asked if they were sure that the baby was hers, and they said it was. The only possible explanation the parents could come up with, was that she must be a genetic throwback to pre-Indo-European people in the part of Europe they have ancestry from. I don't know if this theory holds water. I don't know what to make of it.
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Old Yesterday, 08:19 AM
 
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I have a cousin who is obese. Both of her parents are thin, but her dad's sister is obese. I guess there are ways genetic traits can be acquired. Maybe in the case of the original poster, there was a black person in the family tree.

Reminds me of these meme:
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Old Yesterday, 08:22 AM
 
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Well, maybe they know something they have chosen not to share. Traits do show up from past generations too. Have you seen all their family pictures to know for certain this child doesn't resemble anyone? Why does it matter to anyone but them?
I have four kids. Sometimes, when I'm out and about with them, someone will say something like "oh, your little girl is ...." or "Is this your little girl....."

And I reply with: "Probably, but I never took a blood test but for tax purposes they're mine."
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Old Yesterday, 08:23 AM
 
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I have a cousin, who looks nothing like her parents. She has a dark complexion, and in her teens, her hair turned kind of frizzy, when she grew it out really long. Now she keeps it short, so it looks more straight, or slightly wavy. I heard, that after giving birth, when they showed her her child in the hospital, her mom asked if they were sure that the baby was hers, and they said it was. The only possible explanation the parents could come up with, was that she must be a genetic throwback to pre-Indo-European people in the part of Europe they have ancestry from. I don't know if this theory holds water. I don't know what to make of it.

Why not take a blood test to be sure? "If you haven't done anything wrong, you've got nothing to worry about."
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Old Yesterday, 08:56 AM
 
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Dude knows what's up, at least in the back of his mind. If he wants to live the delusion that's his business. I wouldn't bring it up.
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Old Yesterday, 11:00 AM
 
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I don't have any kids but if I did, I can tell very easily. My family genes are pretty strong. I'm almost an exact replica of my dad and grandfather. Chances are I may look almost exactly like my great grandfather too if we had pictures of him. All my siblings have a certain look to them that I know that they are my siblings. My nieces and nephews have a certain look to them that I know they belong to my family. So, yeah, I could easily ID if a kid was mine or not. But I don't have kids so I don't have to worry about it.
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Old Yesterday, 11:07 AM
 
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Well, maybe they know something they have chosen not to share. Traits do show up from past generations too. Have you seen all their family pictures to know for certain this child doesn't resemble anyone? Why does it matter to anyone but them?
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Why not take a blood test to be sure? "If you haven't done anything wrong, you've got nothing to worry about."
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I have a cousin, who looks nothing like her parents. She has a dark complexion, and in her teens, her hair turned kind of frizzy, when she grew it out really long. Now she keeps it short, so it looks more straight, or slightly wavy. I heard, that after giving birth, when they showed her her child in the hospital, her mom asked if they were sure that the baby was hers, and they said it was. The only possible explanation the parents could come up with, was that she must be a genetic throwback to pre-Indo-European people in the part of Europe they have ancestry from. I don't know if this theory holds water. I don't know what to make of it.
A close friend of mine, African American, had at least one grandparent that could "Pass" for white.

Another classmate from school has a father that by appearances (I've never met him) is African American; not mixed or anything. He appears Hispanic or Indian; he has fine straight hair.

My parents both have Hazel Eyes. Two of their three kids have brown eyes, one blue eyes. Two of us are olive toned, the other is fair. My Dad is sort of fair skinned and my mother gets sunburnt checking the mail. But we all look enough like both parents that its not in question (and my uncles have darker skin than my Dad.)

Another close friend of mine: His dad is Italian and Polish. His Dad looks Italian; skin tone, hair, etc. He has somewhat springy hair. His Mom is Assyrian, which is to say her family emigrated from modern day Iraq, Turkey or Syria. She's lighter than his Dad.

Then you talk about hair. I went to High School with a girl that was off the boat from Ireland. She had tightly curly black hair (and was very Irish lookin in skin, eyes and face.) I similarly had an English teacher that had somewhat kinky hair who was very "Irish looking" and came from South Boston from an Irish family.

Take a look at something that's well understood, like eye color. If you look at the possible outcomes, and then think of something less understood, you begin to understand that phenotypes that are expressed can be hard to predict with certainty.
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