U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Psychology
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
Old 07-18-2019, 02:38 PM
Location: Oklahoma
6,937 posts, read 6,246,070 times
Reputation: 6225


Originally Posted by 1AngryTaxPayer View Post

I know people that drink every day off and at nights even if they have to work. Only one I know gets consistently fall down trunk and blacking out.
Sounds like your one friend is alcoholic................... and the others are still just 'in training'.

In all seriousness, one of the most frustrating things about this is that your response to alcohol changes as the years go by. Maybe you aren't falling down drunk at 25, but there is a good chance you might be at 45 if your drinking progresses.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

Old 07-25-2019, 12:46 PM
Location: Ohio
5,062 posts, read 1,833,171 times
Reputation: 4200
Originally Posted by Mister 7 View Post
I've never tried AA but every alcoholic I know who has says it's ineffective and/or depressing.

I don't know one person who says it works for them.

Not saying it doesn't work, just saying what I've heard.

I personally don't feel 12 step thing would work for me.
There are alternatives since AA does not work for many people.

Try Smart Recovery.

Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-25-2019, 07:16 PM
17,793 posts, read 4,152,838 times
Reputation: 5669
Originally Posted by The Grandeur View Post
I have an alcohol problem. The last time I drank was 5 days ago. I got drunk 5 days ago. 3 people wanted to beat me up but I dont remember what happened. They were threating me to beat me up good. I started running and went inside a cafe nearby and told them to call the police. I was safe after that.

One day I will get beaten up pretty bad when drunk. There have been times I haven't drunk for as long as 2-3 months. Then I drank again. I dont remember some parts of the day when I drink.

Is there anybody who has a problem with alcohol?
No i dont have a drinking problem,OP.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-26-2019, 12:41 PM
Location: So Ca
15,890 posts, read 15,120,919 times
Reputation: 13814
Originally Posted by loose cannon View Post
I do not believe in ALcoholics Anonymous. I believe everybody can discipline themselves. It is esy to get addicted and everyone has that capability. A person can also stop. Ste boundaries. Say well i'll drink 6 beers and a shot and go home. If you do that you'll be fine.
I think that the below thread is an example of how hard that is for some people:

Ever seen an 'alcoholic' go from drinking alcoholically to moderately and healthily?
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-26-2019, 12:57 PM
134 posts, read 27,139 times
Reputation: 302
Op, alot...ALOT ALOT ALOT of people have a problem with alcohol. One the hardest things about it is once you stop and overcome the withdrawal affects and cravings. You STILL have to deal with the unresolved stuff you numbed with the liquor. Once you are no longer self-medicating you might have to deal with PTSD through sexual trauma/ Military Combat, childhood abuse, spousal abuse, etc.

Good look to you dude, I really mean it. I personally go to a once a week meeting at the VA clinic, it helps me to be around other vets who have these hurdles.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-26-2019, 01:32 PM
Location: East Midlands, UK
783 posts, read 279,305 times
Reputation: 1700

But only when I run out.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-27-2019, 10:37 PM
Location: Somewhere below Mason/Dixon
6,548 posts, read 7,508,614 times
Reputation: 10969
Originally Posted by Mr. Boring View Post
99.9999% of addiction specialists would disagree with this approach. With alcoholics, it's all or nothing.
Actually there are alcohol moderation programs available. AA is the best known program and it preaches absolute abstinence but that does not mean it is the only game in town.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-27-2019, 11:56 PM
12,880 posts, read 14,172,824 times
Reputation: 35265
Originally Posted by chiluvr1228 View Post
In our PC and feel good society, alcoholism has been now referred to as a disease.....
If your want to point the finger about the use of the word disease in regard to alcoholism you will have to go back a good many decades before the emergence of political correctness.

Rant as you will and want, but get the right target in your sights.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-28-2019, 08:41 AM
611 posts, read 128,171 times
Reputation: 1254
Originally Posted by danielj72 View Post
that does not mean it is the only game in town.
It is the only game in town.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 07-28-2019, 09:03 AM
Location: NW Nevada
14,313 posts, read 11,702,220 times
Reputation: 13431
I went through a stint of heavy drinking. I am not a full blown alcoholic and was never dependent on booze but I did use it as a coping too. I would go through days on end drinking and just lose track of what day it was.

Then one fine day I said never again. The thought of drinking like that just makes me ill now. I look back on that period and just shake my head. Wondering what it was that came over me. Not being physically dependent did help with stopping. OP, if you have gone months without drinking you should be able to keep that up. It's really easy to just say the hell with it though, I know.

You get in that mindset that you just want to turn off the world. Oh yea, been there. It's always easier said than done. What did it for me was how sick it would make me and focusing on that and not wanting to feel that way anymore. I find now that my stomach will just flip flop when I think about alcohol.

That's a good thing. I hope you find what works for you. Everybody is different, cliche though that may be.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Quick Reply

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Psychology
Similar Threads
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

2005-2019, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top