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Old Yesterday, 02:23 PM
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Originally Posted by Crazy-Cat-Lady View Post
All the time. For being ugly, stupid and useless.

How do I deal with it? Self harm, self medicstion and avoiding people as much as possible, especially kids and teens who still target me as if I was one of them.
I'm sure the cats help. Very cute pics, by the way
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Old Yesterday, 07:28 PM
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For one thing, I don't have the misfortune of hearing what people say about me. But I do know it is bad. If I did hear what people say...
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Old Yesterday, 07:52 PM
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Originally Posted by homenj View Post
How did you let go?
OP, check out this book, The Four Agreements.

One of the agreements is to NEVER TAKE ANYTHING PERSONAL.

That includes the good and bad stuff people say or do. Just let it go. Set good boundaries for yourself, and stay away from negative people that are predatory in nature.

But, start with that...never take anything personal. Meditate on that for about a year. I guarantee your mental health will grow.

Best to you !
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Old Yesterday, 10:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Gohangr View Post
You can never know who has felt what. You can only imagine.
One would have to use their imagination if one has never been depressed to the point of suicidal thoughts.
You can never know who has felt what.
You're right, no one knows what is going on in someone else's mind. If my back was hurting, I could describe to you what it was like; possibly you've had a back to hurt too, so you might on some level have, some what, of an understanding ... but ... you're not me, therefore you can not feel my [back] pain. It is as you said, you can only imagine.

When people deal with long term pain, they usually develop some type of coping mechanism, for mental and/or physical pain ... the op asks simply put, what is people's coping mechanism for suicidal [mental pain] thoughts?
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Old Today, 08:00 AM
Location: Tennessee
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Not over what others said.

My Facebook memories have been popping up a very stressful time for me three years ago. I wasn't suicidal, but was losing my job and was going to face the attendant financial trouble. Things leveled out, but it could have gone badly.
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Old Today, 09:35 AM
Location: california
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Being a better person, would be better retaliation than suicide .
Think long and hard about who you call friends.
If what some one says is accurate take it with a grain of salt.
Many people have no social skills and either are offended at every thing, or deliberately go out of their way to be offensive . Being thin skinned one must spend a lot of time preparing their pity party.
A rhino hide however has no respect for any one but himself.
Life is about balance . A wise person considers the source of criticism and the way it is delivered, may be part is true may be it is an exaggeration trying to stir a response .
If the things said are not true look at the critics life style and weigh their own criticism against them . not confrontally ,but by observation .
When I have a sinus drainage so my breath is not pleasant and a friend offers me tic tacks I know what is going on. I am not offended and I appreciate the gesture .
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