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Old 07-29-2019, 12:32 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I rarely give advice unless I asked. People say I come across as overbearing and condescending.
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Old 07-29-2019, 02:54 PM
 
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I rarely give advice unless I asked. People say I come across as overbearing and condescending.
Sounds like they are honest with you. Are they traits you accept about yourself?
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Old 07-29-2019, 03:01 PM
 
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Learned to lead a horse to water....but make sure they are thirsty first!

Plant seeds ...let them plough their field though. Get it?

Folks need to really read "games people play" by Eric Bernes. He discusses the "yes but" game ..
Took myself three Months after reading it to even want to open my mouth at all. Alas my job required it to answer phones ...
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Old 07-29-2019, 08:42 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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If the person giving advice has no credibility, the advice is not worth listening to. Simple as that.
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Old 07-30-2019, 02:33 PM
 
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I know that the person with the solutions can be seen as a "know-it-all," and can be irritating, in general, for that reason.

But sometimes, because of your experiences, education, and keeping up with new treatments, you might come across someone with a problem that you think could be helped by x, y, or z. And you present it to the person, and they don't try it (and might end up getting sick and/or dying).

I understand why this happens (from a philosophical/spiritual perspective), but from a practical, mundane perspective, it's harder to comprehend.

From a psychological perspective it might be that the person is just in denial about their malady, or they may just be a lazy person, or they might have beliefs that don't jive with what you have told them, or????

What do you think about the psychology of this phenomena?

Reminds me of a friend of mine. She had anal cancer. She went through chemo and radiation because that's what her doctor told her to do. But boy howdy, it was rough on her. Radiation burns basically from the waist down? Effectively sterile, and she's only 32. She's in remission now, and has been for over a year. But of course, it just seems like yesterday to her.


If the cancer were to come back, I doubt she would opt for any kind of treatment anymore. The 'cure' took a huge toll on her. (Her words.)


I don't think you could tell her that there was a newer and better treatment out there, and that it would sway her.
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Old Today, 10:10 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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I have people giving me all kinds of suggestions to get rid of my RA, they insist they know of a supplement, or omission diet that will WORK.

While they mean well, they are just plain old wrong. So I would say not all advice is created equally, and a lot depends on how much they respect the person giving the advice.
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