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Old 11-25-2023, 10:10 AM
 
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My point is that part of the repulsion for men, per the thread, is that it ISN’T natural. Tamara solidified a good point re: ‘natural bodily functions’.

Do you agree that, at least anatomically/biologically, heterosexual sex is ‘natural’ (and represents the vast majority)? That said, I’m not implying homosexuality is ‘abnormal’, either; it is what it is. However, to suggest it’s somehow more ‘natural’ than heterosexual sex (especially since you claim to be a straight female) is just - odd.


No such claim was made.
The repulsion towards homosexuality for men arises from fear of rape. It is similar to what women experience about being raped. Both fear being penetrated unwillingly. Not sure how much more clearer this can be made to you.
But you go ahead with your shadow boxing.
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Old 11-25-2023, 11:32 AM
 
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The repulsion towards homosexuality for men arises from fear of rape. It is similar to what women experience about being raped. Both fear being penetrated unwillingly.
If you’re a straight female, as you previously stated, it’s odd you’re claiming to be an expert on how straight men feel about homosexuality - particularly relative to violence or fear. Rape is about power and assault, not sex or sexual orientation; it’s psychology 101, per the thread. If one’s fear of something is affecting their behavior or thoughts, something is wrong/unresolved in their head. That I’m disgusted by the thought of sex with another man, obviously, doesn’t mean it’s not appealing for gay men (nor does it have anything to do with rape); I accept it is what it is.

In other words, (the fear of) rape doesn’t have anything to do with a man’s (or woman’s) sexual orientation in a psychologically-healthy individual (or their thoughts about others’ sexuality, for that matter).
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Old 11-25-2023, 01:25 PM
 
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I am not afraid of being raped by gay men, but I don't really like going to shopping for clothes at say Banana Republic or similar stores because it is just awkward being hit on by the gay men who often work there.

I also tend to avoid going to art galleries or other environments like that where I think gay men might hit on me.

What gay men do behind closed doors is something I don't want to think about but it's ultimately their business and if they just left me alone, I would not really care what they do. But I have been hit on by enough gay men where all things considered I would rather not be around them either.
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Old 11-25-2023, 03:12 PM
 
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I am not afraid of being raped by gay men, but I don't really like going to shopping for clothes at say Banana Republic or similar stores because it is just awkward being hit on by the gay men who often work there.

I also tend to avoid going to art galleries or other environments like that where I think gay men might hit on me.

What gay men do behind closed doors is something I don't want to think about but it's ultimately their business and if they just left me alone, I would not really care what they do. But I have been hit on by enough gay men where all things considered I would rather not be around them either.
How do you think a lot of women feel when they are hit on constantly by men they have no interest in? Sometimes situations can become very dangerous for them, too. This is much less common with straight men being hit on by gay men, although male homophobia can lead to incredible violence.


I don't have answers for all of this things that make us uncomfortable in life. It's just life - we are all going to have aversions to things we don't like until death. Not much you can do. You can go meditate like a monk in the forest; but even them, something will annoy you. It's possible you'll see two male animals sniffing each other's genitals, as they size each other up before mating.

Peace.
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Old 11-26-2023, 10:37 AM
 
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I am not afraid of being raped by gay men, but I don't really like going to shopping for clothes at say Banana Republic or similar stores because it is just awkward being hit on by the gay men who often work there.
You must not live in the Bay Area, LA, or any other large metro area if you essentially hide for fear of ‘awkwardness’ at being ‘hit on’ by gay men (or anyone). As a straight man in my 40’s, being approached by a gay man is no different than a woman I have no interest in. You decline and move on.

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I also tend to avoid going to art galleries or other environments like that where I think gay men might hit on me.
Heh, they are in all environments i.e. not just Banana Republic or art galleries - including professionally. Be confident in who you are; why hide or alter your behavior for fear of ‘awkwardness’. It’s not as if folks (whether gay men or straight women) are going to battle you over being interested or not, lol.
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Old 11-26-2023, 12:04 PM
 
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Lol @ being afraid of being hit on by gay men in Banana Republic or art galleries?

Is this actually a thing?

I guess this is "extreme" homophobia.

I have NEVER been hit on by gay men @ the above venues. Maybe I'm not as handsome as said poster :P

The way I see it is this... if anybody hits on you (flirts?) then maybe take it as a compliment?

A gay man will not continue hitting on you if you show that you aren't interested. Trust me you aren't that hot
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Old 11-26-2023, 12:08 PM
 
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Lol @ being afraid of being hit on by gay men in Banana Republic or art galleries?

Is this actually a thing?

I guess this is "extreme" homophobia.

I have NEVER been hit on by gay men @ the above venues. Maybe I'm not as handsome as said poster :P

The way I see it is this... if anybody hits on you (flirts?) then maybe take it as a compliment?

A gay man will not continue hitting on you if you show that you aren't interested. Trust me you aren't that hot
A Navy man I knew told me when he had to deal with aggressive LadyBoys...He would kick them out the way and continue on his way.

I'll leave it at that.
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