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View Poll Results: Do you feel incredibly beautiful & sexy with no negative reservations about it whatsoever?
I am "normal weight" and I believe that I am beautiful and sexy in every way. 14 20.00%
I am "normal weight" and I DON'T believe that I am beautiful and sexy in every way. 19 27.14%
I am "overweight by no more than 50 pounds" and I believe that I am beautiful and sexy in every way. 8 11.43%
I am "overweight by no more than 50 pounds" and I DON'T believe that I am beautiful and sexy in every way. 16 22.86%
I am "more than 50 pounds overweight" and I believe that I am beautiful and sexy in every way. 2 2.86%
I am "more than 50 pounds overweight" and I DON'T believe that I am beautiful and sexy in every way. 11 15.71%
Voters: 70. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 05-27-2008, 02:13 PM
 
Location: Humboldt Park, Chicago
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I think if you are married to someone you should not have a problem with them seeing you naked. They know what you look like and in theory love you no matter what you weigh. I know this doesn't always play out in relationships but I would not have a problem seeing my wife naked, regardless of her weight.

You have issues with your weight, which are apparently not so great for you to start working out. He may or may not and may enjoy seeing you without clothing. Maybe your husband just needs to tell you more often how beautiful you are to him.
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Old 05-27-2008, 02:18 PM
 
Location: southern california
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I am not a girl however.
considering Troy was sacked for the face of a woman, saying size does not matter seems a lil glib.
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Old 05-27-2008, 03:06 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Maybe your husband just needs to tell you more often how beautiful you are to him.
That may help some, but I know what I look like naked, and no matter how beautiful he tells me I am, I still would have self esteem issues, and want to hide behind a towel.
He knows what I look like naked, but until I start working out again, and doing it for myself, I will hide.
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Old 05-27-2008, 03:11 PM
 
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I'm not skinny but I'm happy with my weight, although I felt fat when I was a teenager. I've grown out of most of those insecurities. Though I don't think that skinny women are unattractive, a lot of times I'm drawn to curvier, more full-figured women. I think this plus-size model is really attractive.

On the other hand, I have to say this, and I welcome over people's opinions on this because I've beat myself up over it a bit. I can't see how someone who is well over, say 300 pounds is attractive. There's nothing wrong with being overweight, but when someone goes into the morbidly obese range and starts having issues with mobility, that is really unattractive to me. However, I feel guilty about this because I've always said looks are unimportant whether it's a man or a woman and one's personality is far more important. But at the same time, I don't think I'd want to go out on a date with a morbidly obese person. Is that unfair?

EDIT: So, I guess that second paragraph could be considered OT, so if a mod wants to delete it, I can understand that.

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Old 05-27-2008, 03:15 PM
 
Location: in my imagination
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I'm not skinny but I'm happy with my weight, although I felt fat when I was a teenager. I've grown out of most of those insecurities. Though I don't think that skinny women are unattractive, a lot of times I'm drawn to curvier, more full-figured women. I think this plus-size model is really attractive.

On the other hand, I have to say this, and I welcome over people's opinions on this because I've beat myself up over it a bit. I can't see how someone who is well over, say 300 pounds is attractive. There's nothing wrong with being overweight, but when someone goes into the morbidly obese range and starts having issues with mobility, that is really unattractive to me. However, I feel guilty about this because I've always said looks are unimportant whether it's a man or a woman and one's personality is far more important. But at the same time, I don't think I'd want to go out on a date with a morbidly obese person. Is that unfair?
She is hot but I don't even consider her plus size,just normal.
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Old 05-27-2008, 03:20 PM
 
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She is hot but I don't even consider her plus size,just normal.
I wish more people felt that way. She's a size 16 and lots of stores don't even carry that size. (I wear 16 also and there are plenty of stores I can't find clothes at when I go to the mall). I think that model looks fantastic just the way she is and I do think it's kind of ridiculous that she has to be considered a "plus-size" model.
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Old 05-27-2008, 03:45 PM
 
Location: CA
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I love my body the way it is and the way it was. There have been stages in my life when I was "heavy" but I had the same self esteem that I do now. Society already gives women too many reasons to feel bad about ourselves... I'm not going to cave in and feel crummy because I can't fit into a size 2 (nor would I ever want to fit into a size 2).
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Old 05-27-2008, 06:36 PM
 
Location: D.C. area
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Hmmm... I voted that I am a "normal" weight but not beautiful and sexy in EVERY way. I mean, I think that I am attractive, but I still have things that I would change.
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Old 05-27-2008, 07:24 PM
 
Location: Marshall, MN.
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Regardless of what I weigh, I don't feel so "hot" right now (darn allergies!), but there are times (at my same weight) when I feel amazing. IMO feeling sexy or beautiful has to do with much more than weight.
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Old 05-27-2008, 07:29 PM
 
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She is hot but I don't even consider her plus size,just normal.
This woman has a size 34 waist and you consider it normal? Maybe it is normal because most in the US are overweight or obese, but that is not a good thing.
She is attractive, but embracing an unhealthy lifestyle is not something I condone. The American Heart Association does not condone it either. This is not a matter of vanity people, it is one of health.

My wife wears a size 25/26 waist and that is normal to me, much healthier and far more attractive.
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