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Old 10-25-2023, 03:35 PM
 
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What? I can't imagine thinking that much about eye contact. It happens. Then you go on. No big deal
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Old 10-25-2023, 03:36 PM
 
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All over the Internet? Which Internet?
the Internet your currently on. #clownemoji


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I mean absolutely no disrespect...do you think MAYBE you might be on the autistic spectrum a little bit? Folks with autism have difficulty with eye contact. Maintaining contact does not come naturally for them.

Bless your Heart, and I mean absolutely no disrespect.... do you think MAYBE you're on the judge other people without any qualifications so I can feel better about my crappy life spectrum a little bit?



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Is this really affecting your life in such a way you feel the need to talk about it?
well, this is a message board/ forum, obviously the OP affected you enough that you felt the need to take time out of your day to respond to a post that you seem to feel is unnecessary.


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Old 10-25-2023, 03:44 PM
 
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[quote=JSOFFLine;65997664]the Internet your currently on. #clownemoji





Bless your Heart, and I mean absolutely no disrespect.... do you think MAYBE you're on the judge other people without any qualifications so I can feel better about my crappy life spectrum a little bit?



Actually, I AM a little bit qualified. I have a son on the spectrum. I know from experience that he has difficulty with eye contact. And hey, I was commenting, not judging. If you're on the spectrum, you're swimming upstream like a salmon all the time. It's tough.

I approached the OP the way I did because in the past, I have been a little sarcastic with him, and I wanted to convey that I was being...conversational, not confrontational.
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Old 10-25-2023, 03:52 PM
 
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Outside of work I avoid making eye contact with people as much as possible. It tends to invite interaction or conversation, neither of which appeal to me for the most part and actually make me uncomfortable. It doesn't mean I'm rude, but rather a body language signal that says "don't talk to me right now". Sometimes I wonder if I should wear a "STOP TALKING" tshirt for those that don't pick up on it and are feeling extra friendly.
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Old 10-25-2023, 04:06 PM
 
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Bless your Heart, and I mean absolutely no disrespect.... do you think MAYBE you're on the judge other people without any qualifications so I can feel better about my crappy life spectrum a little bit?

Also, I want to add...we get a lot of folks who are on the spectrum, who come to this forum for various advice because what we (who are less on the spectrum) take for granted, they want concrete information.

I would suppose for someone who DOES have difficulty with eye contact, it DOES seem like constant harangueing and quite tiresome, to always be told "make eye contact" when it doesn't seem natural at all to them.
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Old 10-25-2023, 04:21 PM
 
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A. By making eye contact you are acknowledging their existence as a person.
B. It shows that you are interested in what they are saying.
C. The perception that someone who isn't willing to look you in the eyes is hiding something.

Yeah l know that but people you don't even know don't need anyone's or your acknowledgment.
And the hiding something stuff is just bs too imo , wth are we hiding from people we don't even know, whatever we are is none of their business anyway.
Not only but a liar or someone up to something will lie straight to your face anyway, that's their game.
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Old 10-25-2023, 04:24 PM
 
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Stop searching or otherwise surfing places about eye contact and live the way you want with less eye contact.
I don't see things online that I'm not already looking for in some way.

Kidding , l don't go searching this bs, you can't miss it.
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Old 10-25-2023, 04:27 PM
 
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I think we're seeing one of the results of people living their lives online instead of interacting, even at low levels, with real people in person in social settings.
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Old 10-25-2023, 04:29 PM
 
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Is this really affecting your life in such a way you feel the need to talk about it?

Nope, l'm 50s, l've had it down pat for yrs , it's no problem l know how l work and why and how other people work around me as l said.
it's just something l'm curious about really from other peoples point of view bc you just see it talked about so much.

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Old 10-25-2023, 04:33 PM
 
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What? I can't imagine thinking that much about eye contact. It happens. Then you go on. No big deal

But that's my point ,or one of.
So many do seem to think about it though and make such a point of it just sounds fake and almost forced.
Especially any of the dating stuff they'll write about. Almost every post will crap on about eye contact.
But you also see people talking about it in all kinds of situations so much too , not only dating.
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