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Old 11-01-2023, 09:44 AM
 
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Lucky you! Seems like I hear it everywhere now, even from people I otherwise respect.
yeah, it seems to be catching on and it's really irritating....
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Old 11-01-2023, 09:47 AM
 
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heavymindI'm Gen-X and still guilty of using "like" too much. I think it makes me sound dumb, but it's permanently ingrained into my vocabulary. No upspeak, though. I remember hearing that in Australia 20 years ago before it became widespread in the US.
yes, my granddaughter used to use Like a lot, until I started correcting her, and yes, it makes you (meaning you in general) as if you cannot articulate yourself properly....

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Another annoyance is interjecting "so" and "right" in every other sentence. It's useless filler. I've been noticing standup comedians using it a lot in their bits. "So, I went upstairs to open the door, right? And the moment the door opened I realized I had made a huge mistake. Almost colossally huge, right? The next thing I know I'm standing outside in my underwear, right?........"
Right! no pun intended....lol, but you are right.

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I suppose it's better than "know what I mean". I had a boss once who said that after every sentence. I counted once during a meeting and told him he'd said it over 30 times. LOL
Don't know what they are teaching in school, but noticing a lot of young people are not able to express themselves using the proper English, for instance, "I seen" them to that....and it's happening a lot.
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Old 11-01-2023, 09:49 AM
 
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Also known as the "Australian question intonation" or AQI. It's just an accent. If anything, it makes them sound insecure, like they are asking your approval on every sentence, rather than making themselves sound important.
There are cultures that do raise their voices at the end of their sentences which sounds like a question, however, it's happening way too much in the U.S and it's extremely irritating. I believe they "think" they sound important, like Rich kids or something ?
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Old 11-01-2023, 10:40 AM
 
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I believe they "think" they sound important, like Rich kids or something ?
I don't think they're doing it on purpose to sound like anything--it's just the way they talk. We live in a big country, and lots of people speak with different accents, dialects, and slang. Language evolves over time, and we're not in school anymore. Even if you're annoyed, there isn't one "right" way to speak English if you understand what's being said (and sometimes even if you don't.)
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Old 11-01-2023, 11:16 AM
 
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I don't think they're doing it on purpose to sound like anything--it's just the way they talk. We live in a big country, and lots of people speak with different accents, dialects, and slang. Language evolves over time, and we're not in school anymore. Even if you're annoyed, there isn't one "right" way to speak English if you understand what's being said (and sometimes even if you don't.)
Agree completely. I'm still trying to discern the psychology topic here.
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Old 11-01-2023, 11:21 AM
 
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Agree completely. I'm still trying to discern the psychology topic here.
Maybe why some speech patterns, accents and cadences can get on your nerves?
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Old 11-01-2023, 11:31 AM
 
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I don't think they're doing it on purpose to sound like anything--it's just the way they talk. We live in a big country, and lots of people speak with different accents, dialects, and slang. Language evolves over time, and we're not in school anymore. Even if you're annoyed, there isn't one "right" way to speak English if you understand what's being said (and sometimes even if you don't.)
I agree.

I also think that most people, if they spend any significant amount of time around others, will start to mirror whatever kind of speech they are hearing. Some do this more readily than others, and I would be really interested in knowing more about why that is. I know that a week long vacation in another part of the country, visiting people who have any kind of an accent or speech pattern, will be enough for me to start unconsciously mirroring it. And I once came away from a solid weekend of Monty Python marathon, speaking not just with some accent going on but with the particular pauses and rhythms common to a lot of their sketch comedy.

And in addition to all of the stuff with accents and patterns like that... I pick up what I refer to as "isms" from other people. Particular words, phrases, or even gestures or ways of saying something. I have gone back and watched some show or movie or something I had not seen in many years, only to recognize a thing that I say or do pretty commonly in my speech comes directly from a particular line delivered by some actor, and I'd long forgotten where it came from!

And I have been guilty of doing the Lewis Black "angry fingers and clenched teeth" thing when expressing certain thoughts where I intend a kind of humorous hyperbole. Silly-mad.

I think it's very interesting how we get all the bits and pieces that form our communication.

And maybe when it comes to something like upspeak...a lot of folks find it annoying and might avoid people who do it, and perhaps to some extent, if a person picks it up by mirroring and then does it without thinking it signals association with a social group?

But I actually JUST realized that the Australian comedian Hannah Gadsby does it a lot and I like one of her stand up specials and LOVE another one (Douglas was soooo funny)... It doesn't bug me when she does it.
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Old 11-01-2023, 11:37 AM
 
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I'm not certain if this is the correct thread to put this post under, if not, please feel free to move....but I watch a whole lot of vids, and I am so tired of young people doing the uptalk thing....

for people who don't know what that is, its a way of talking to make themselves feel important, at the end of their sentences, they raise their voices as if to ask a question, instead of talking normal.

It is so irritating....and fake....
Ha! I'd guess it's a fad of some sort. I notice that nature shows filmed in Australia, almost all the women do upspeak as I call it. I think it's contagious. They didn't talk like that 20 years ago.

I ran a thread about this and similar, I think I called it Squeaky Voices etc. I find upspeak quite irritating and rather peculiar, but i guess a gal's gotta do what a gal's gotta do.
I notice it a lot more among women than men.
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Old 11-01-2023, 11:44 AM
 
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I can always pick out a 70s movie by the way the women speak. It's breathy, soft voice, even if the situation does not call for that. It grates on my nerves.

Same with 50s movies, and 30s.

It's funny to watch them because the people speak so differently, and it's not just the words used, it's HOW they talk.
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Old 11-01-2023, 12:59 PM
 
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I can always pick out a 70s movie by the way the women speak. It's breathy, soft voice, even if the situation does not call for that. It grates on my nerves.

Same with 50s movies, and 30s.

It's funny to watch them because the people speak so differently, and it's not just the words used, it's HOW they talk.
True!

I am very particular about my preferences for vocalists, too. I've had friends try to play songs featuring some high pitched childlike ultra feminine singing and I cannot cope with it. And I nearly blew a gasket when I was in the car with one friend and a song on her playlist was this kind of singer covering a song by Bjork. I adore Bjork, but the whole point is her unique voice and accent. You can't just...cover...a Bjork song... Actually I think it was "Army of Me" as covered by an out of breath baby rabbit. Like what army could there possibly be of you, I would really like to know...

But who am I to say, I guess...? We live in a society that allowed Depp to play Willy Wonka, as though Gene Wilder did not do it perfectly the first time around. Harrumph!
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