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Old 08-21-2011, 12:19 AM
 
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Hmmm....I think people that are extremely argumentative have a chip on their shoulder, They tend to be small minded they only see their pov...even though they couldnt be further from the truth...They are "Right fighters" Their main goal is not to find a amicable agreement, they are not interested in the truth or facts...you say the sky is blue and they say it is "Aquamarine"
They are the ones that never real get "it" because they are so busy trying to think of their rebuttal that they never hear wht the other person is trying to say...
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Old 08-21-2011, 04:23 AM
 
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Any thoughts on what the deal is with extremely argumentative people?
Justified argumentativeness:
- matter of principle
- requiring specific definitions and being annoyed at people who generalize
- overwhelming need to point out hypocrisy

Unjustified argumentativeness:
- anger
- irrational need to air your opinions without true discussion
- control issues
- delusions of grandeur
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Old 08-21-2011, 03:27 PM
 
Location: GA
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Unhappy people. It's okay to share a different viewpoint but if you must "disagree" with everything that I say and take the opposite side just because...........that's cool. You will notice yourself by yourself more often but just keep arguing with everything. You will be 100% right and by your darn self.
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Old 08-21-2011, 07:35 PM
 
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Any thoughts on what the deal is with extremely argumentative people?
There are several things that will leave an argumentative person speechless. Youre right! I agree with you! Id feel the same way in your shoes, and when you say it, mean it. With the last statement, youre not lying. Youd feel the same way as the argumentative person if you were in his shoes! The best way to ensure that an argumentative person will persist is to disagree with them in any way shape or form.
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Old 08-21-2011, 07:51 PM
 
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Isn't that a sarcastic and flippant blandishment?

I prefer to agree to disagree. Because I really do disagree but I would like to stay on friendly grounds.

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There are several things that will leave an argumentative person speechless. “You’re right! I agree with you! I’d feel the same way in your shoes,” and when you say it, mean it. With the last statement, you’re not lying. You’d feel the same way as the argumentative person if you were in his shoes! The best way to ensure that an argumentative person will persist is to disagree with them in any way shape or form.
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Old 08-21-2011, 09:56 PM
 
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Isn't that a sarcastic and flippant blandishment?

I prefer to agree to disagree. Because I really do disagree but I would like to stay on friendly grounds.
If I were in your shoes, Id feel exactly the same way!
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Old 08-21-2011, 10:04 PM
 
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They need to be right, they are controlling, they need to win, and maybe they are miserable and use you (not you you) just to discharge misplaced anger. Those would be my guesses.
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Old 08-21-2011, 10:10 PM
 
Location: Pa
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I know a co-worker like this. She is very negative and loves to say the opposite. And not many like her.
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Old 08-21-2011, 10:15 PM
 
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I had a situation with a former friend who loved to argue aka tell me what to do, tell me how I screwed up, etc. Anyway, I got to the point where I refused to argue with her and told her I'd only communicate via email as I would not argue with her (this must have infuriorated her as it's awfully hard to argue in an email). I told her I would not talk to her on the phone as all she wanted to do was argue and I told her I would not. Well, she never did email me, she kept calling me, I didn't pick up, and now we don't argue at all, needless to say. Too bad it came down to that as it was a LT friendship, but at least I don't have to argue anymore.
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Old 08-21-2011, 10:22 PM
 
Location: Great Plains
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I love a good debate.

If someone is way stupid or says something even more stupid, I will argue with them. I am not one to play nice, if they **** me off.
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