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Old 01-08-2018, 07:22 PM
 
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Oh, you poor dear. Bless you.
Don't know if you are being sarcastic or not, but like I mentioned in a post above, it was intended more as a running "inside joke"...but whatever...
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Old 01-08-2018, 07:41 PM
 
Location: Chicago > DC area (Fairfax County)
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Speech style. Whether they have a regional accent, how many speech fillers they use, how much they swear, how wide their vocabulary seems to be, how much their tone varies, (in text) how many emojis they use and how formal their capitalization and punctuation are ("sure lets go" vs. "Sure, let's go.").

I have personal preferences in all of these areas, but regardless of any value judgment, it can all tell you a lot about someone's personality and which of their social groups likely matter the most to them.

A bit off-topic, but I hope judging people by their car isn't too common - because I don't have one. I got in a crash a few months ago and just use my bike and public transportation now.
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Old 01-08-2018, 11:02 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Speech style. Whether they have a regional accent, how many speech fillers they use, how much they swear, how wide their vocabulary seems to be, how much their tone varies, (in text) how many emojis they use and how formal their capitalization and punctuation are ("sure lets go" vs. "Sure, let's go.").

I have personal preferences in all of these areas, but regardless of any value judgment, it can all tell you a lot about someone's personality and which of their social groups likely matter the most to them.

A bit off-topic, but I hope judging people by their car isn't too common - because I don't have one. I got in a crash a few months ago and just use my bike and public transportation now.
You left out: good grammar. Do they know when to use objective forms of the pronouns, and when not to.
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Old 01-09-2018, 03:27 PM
 
Location: Mt. Lebanon
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shoes? I met most interesting and cultivated college professors who wear beaten up sandals. The choice of clothes or shoes has nothing to do with who a person is. IMO.

To me it's just the deeds of a person that speak about who that person is. Not the appearance, not the clothes and definitely not the shoes. Not even the way they talk because they might be lying or exaggerating. Just the actions.
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Old 01-09-2018, 04:56 PM
 
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Shoes are very telling.

My boss and his right hand man were conned by a guy pretending to be a wealthy potential client. I keep telling Boss and RHM the guy didn't seem right, not to provide him with anything that cost money. He wore cheap shoes and a nice but not excellent suit.

Boss ignored me and lost several thousand dollars to this guy.

Con guy had a good spin, though. Turns out he was in and out of jail for pulling cons. He got away with lots of them, often because victims were too embarrassed to press charges and have their names made public.


Couple of years after I left that company, his bookkeeper tried to warn him not to refund a large amount of money to a new client who wanted his money out of retainer. She thought client had a bad vibe. Boss gave new Con a big company check anyway. Weeks later, the bank discovered the check written by the Con to fund the retainer fraudulent. Boss lost tens of thousands that time.
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Old 02-27-2018, 08:59 AM
 
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Not physical, but the moment people start talking about vampires, UFOs, wherewolves, the CIA, or any other nutty conspiracy or 'out to get them' crap, my mind flags them as a kook for life. (I've ran into many such people).
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Old 02-27-2018, 09:14 AM
 
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I only judge people by their appearance if they look like they have been dirty for a LONG time (unwashed hair and unbrushed teeth, for example). Condition of clothes and shoes are not a "tell" at all. In fact, I heard a story, supposedly true, about how a well-known business leader and wealthy man would regularly dress in old and comfortable clothes (think old T-shirt, almost threadbare jeans, and flip-flops) on the weekend, and once he went to a park in a posh part of town and just sat on the bench to enjoy the view. A policeman approached him with the intent of possibly "shooing him off" and asked him for his I.D. The cop was very surprised and very apologetic when the "bum" pulled out his wallet, and the cop saw that it was full of credit cards and plenty of cash.

I also tend to judge people by how they speak -- I admit that I have a higher opinion of people if they use good grammar and are polite. In short, politeness, cleanliness and good grammar are the most important factors with me forming a good first impression of someone. After that, more important things like kindness and honesty take over as to whether I want to continue associating with someone or not.
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Old 02-27-2018, 10:18 AM
 
Location: Land of the Caddo and Tonkawa
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So weird to read about the posts valuing looking at shoes. It's not a priority to me (only wearing fancy new-ish shoes), and I wouldn't change a thing. For me, if someone's going to judge another based on outward appearance, they aren't worth knowing or developing a relationship/friendship with. They can keep all the petty, shallow, and materialistic people to themselves.

Kindness, lack of judgement and bias, mentally/culturally rich, and well-read, is what's important in my view.

You can change a person's clothes, but that doesn't change who you are. Lots of criminals and felons show up in court dressed wonderfully, with spotless and immaculate shoes, but that doesn't mean anything.

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Old 02-27-2018, 02:13 PM
 
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So weird to read about the posts valuing looking at shoes. It's not a priority to me (only wearing fancy new-ish shoes), and I wouldn't change a thing. For me, if someone's going to judge another based on outward appearance, they aren't worth knowing or developing a relationship/friendship with. They can keep all the petty, shallow, and materialistic people to themselves.
This whole "looking at shoes" has always given me the heebie-jeebies, and always brings up images of some sexual creep in my mind. I don't mind if someone has a fetish, but I don't like people doing this kind of thing on the down-low.

I also tend to run shoes into the ground, and rather quickly at that, so this would be a very faulty indication of me as a person.
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Old 02-27-2018, 03:21 PM
 
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I always examine a person's body shape. Sometimes I will judge people based on this, although I wouldn't say that is my goal.
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