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Old 01-26-2009, 11:45 AM
 
Location: For Pig Latin Ess-Pray Ee-Thray
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I judge people relative to the situation or the reason I am in contact with them.

If I were hiring someone to drive me to the airport or dig a sewer line on my property, I would pay attention to different things than I would if I were hiring him/her to represent my company at a trade show, or be a receptionist at my office.
You are right. If I was hiring someone to work for me I would want them to be able to do the job. I was just thinking about would I want them as a friend.
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Old 01-26-2009, 12:13 PM
 
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Shoes? I thought the leather most women were concerned with was used to make a wallet.
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Old 01-26-2009, 12:27 PM
 
Location: Wyoming
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What kind of assumptions would you make(from shoes)?

My sisters said there's a difference between a quality shoe and and a flashy shoe (for men). Cost doesn't always mean quality- you could be just paying for a name. And quality usually takes a skilled eye. Things like that, that you can extrapolate into other areas of their lives.
First off, we all know that assumptions are often wrong. But I could write several pages on what shoes indicate about a person -- condition of the shoes, type of shoes, cleanliness of shoes, brand of shoes, type of wear on the shoes, whether they're kept polished or not, style of shoes, even the color. Many people put a lot of thought into the shoes they purchase, and if they don't, that tells something about them too. I started to make a list, but I quickly saw that the list was going to be way too long. I also know that shoes are not an indicator of a person's goodness in any way. They can tell me a lot about the person but nothing of much importance.
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Old 01-26-2009, 12:37 PM
 
Location: Philly
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First off, we all know that assumptions are often wrong. But I could write several pages on what shoes indicate about a person -- condition of the shoes, type of shoes, cleanliness of shoes, brand of shoes, type of wear on the shoes, whether they're kept polished or not, style of shoes, even the color. Many people put a lot of thought into the shoes they purchase, and if they don't, that tells something about them too. I started to make a list, but I quickly saw that the list was going to be way too long. I also know that shoes are not an indicator of a person's goodness in any way. They can tell me a lot about the person but nothing of much importance.
Assumption was the wrong word. And you are right, in the end it doesn't reveal their heart condition either, which is ultimately the most important. Nonetheless it's an interesting way to tell something about a person without talking to them.
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Old 01-26-2009, 02:09 PM
 
Location: New England
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My foolproof way is the waiter test. Watch how somebody treats the waiter, for in six months that's how that person will be treating you.

I like that, and agree with it. As I think about, it really is ringing true.
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Old 01-26-2009, 02:13 PM
 
Location: Orlando, Florida
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I look at a person's car. Not the TYPE OF or COST....but whether it is clean or not. I will lose respect in a minute if someone has a messy smelly car. When I used to date a lot, it was the first sign to me of whether I was going to like a person or not.
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Old 01-26-2009, 02:13 PM
 
Location: CA
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I think that to a point, the way people choose to present themselves can say something about who they are. However, looks can be deceiving, and it isn't smart to read too much into it. If someone has nice shoes, then it usually means they simply have good taste in shoes
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Old 01-26-2009, 04:23 PM
 
Location: CITY OF ANGELS AND CONSTANT DANGER
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no, shoes dont matter when first meeting someone.

but i would notice the attention they paid to hygeine and over all presentation.

but what is really important is:
being a hard worker
being honest
being loyal
making me laugh

theres other stuff, but rarely is it superficial or physical.
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Old 01-26-2009, 04:30 PM
 
Location: St. Augustine, FL. & Austin, TX.
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For me its eye contact and the way they speak - i.e., their use of correct grammar and the way they pronounce their words. You can tell a lot about a person by just listening to them speak.
Agreed. I notice that, and I also pay attention to their over-all cleanliness. Are they dressed sloppy? Does their hair look like it hasn't been washed in days? Etc.
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Old 01-27-2009, 12:15 AM
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I agree about speech, though I don't really run into people who are a disaster in that department. I am not a fan of the like, you know, OMG types, though, I must say. If one is that amazed about everything he or she cannot be overly brilliant.

For me the number one factor has to be teeth. Maybe it's from having braces for three years a long time ago; I'm super picky about them. To me it's not that hard to make them look at least decent. I couldn't believe how many people on American Idol this season have YELLOW teeth and let them show on national television! That is the total worst. At least spring for the whitening toothpaste.
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