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Old 01-02-2018, 04:24 AM
 
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You can make snap judgements on clothes or shoes or haircuts, or choose to look deeper. Your call.
Everyone makes assumptions - we have to to survive.

The trouble begins when one assumes that their assumptions are correct.
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Old 01-02-2018, 07:48 AM
 
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I am getting new shoes today!!!
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Old 01-02-2018, 10:44 AM
 
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I don't even notice people's shoes normally.
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Old 01-04-2018, 07:33 AM
 
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When I first met my wife she once told me that if a women wears dirty shoes (as in filthy) in public, it usually means she is "dirty" every place else on her body. Yes, even tennis shoes/sneakers. That thought has been ingrained in my mind for years.
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Old 01-04-2018, 07:57 AM
 
Location: East of Seattle since 1992, originally from SF Bay Area
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Why would anyone look down at someones feet? I have never even thought of looking at anyone's shoes, I really don't care what anyone has on their feet.
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Old 01-04-2018, 10:34 AM
 
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First is hygiene, teeth, cloths, overall appearance as long as they are well kept.

Next is what they say or lake of. If they refuse to engage in conversation you know they are hiding something. If they talk like a know it all, they are full of it.
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Old 01-04-2018, 11:00 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I don't even notice people's shoes normally.
Yeah, honestly, I always thought that fixating on shoes was an E European thing. Back in the day, in Russia, walking down the street, everyone was always checking out everyone else's shoes. I've never seen that anywhere else. But now the secret's out, thanks to C-D! Shoes are a barometer of character! Who knew?

I've developed podiatry issues, so I wear Birkenstocks, because they're orthopedic, and allow my podiatrist to custom-alter the footbed for my needs. What does that communicate about me, to all the shoe-assessors out there in public? I shudder to think. Just crumple me up and throw me away, I guess.
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Old 01-04-2018, 06:24 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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My sisters have told me you can tell a lot about a person by their shoes. They size men up by their shoes- quality of the shoe, condition of it, etc. It's not the tell all, but you can start there.

Is there anything else that you use to assess people, such as shoes or a car? Not necessarily the cost of these things, but the condition, style, etc.

Or maybe it's something physical like finger nails, teeth, hairstyle?
For me, I think it is personal grooming. Things like a good haircut, straight, well cared for teeth, trimmed fingernails, etc. Clothing can be telling, but for example, here in the south, men live in sandals and shorts, so although there are upscale versions of these, itís not a good gauge.
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Old 01-04-2018, 11:36 PM
 
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I tend not to judge a book by its cover so no I don't assess people by their shoes or anything else they wear or carry. Like another poster mentioned I find the waiter test a better means to find out what sort a person someone is.
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Old 01-05-2018, 01:20 PM
 
Location: St Augustine
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I look to see how they treat others.

I used to be that guy that would sigh heavily while waiting in line at the store register. That was many-many years ago and have since realized that it does absolutely nothing but make me look like an azz, raise my blood pressure, and make it uncomfortable for others around me.

Now, I just wait patiently and when it is my turn I smile. I am usually offered a "thank you for your patience" and my standard reply is "no worries! getting impatient does nothing to help the situation and besides, I don't need to raise my BP".
Ironically, I never was mean to the wait-staff, not because I wasn't upset, I just didn't want anyone to spit in my food! HAHA.
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