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Old 04-07-2009, 02:50 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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I was never bullied at all, never picked on in anything but a joking manner. I really didn't care what anyone else thought of me growing up. I am much more sensitive now than I was growing up. My brother, however was bullied quite a bit. He was beaten up and teased for being tall skinny and smart. I wound up defending him a lot and trying to keep him near my circle of friends to protect him. Even though I am his little sister I am very protective of him. To this day he is a different person than he was before he was bullied. I think it really took a lot out of him. I really can't believe the things that kids said and did to him. It really broke my heart. He is a really good guy!
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Old 04-07-2009, 02:50 PM
 
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I was never bullied at all, never picked on in anything but a joking manner. I really didn't care what anyone else thought of me growing up. I am much more sensitive now than I was growing up. My brother, however was bullied quite a bit. He was beaten up and teased for being tall skinny and smart. I wound up defending him a lot and trying to keep him near my circle of friends to protect him. Even though I am his little sister I am very protective of him. To this day he is a different person than he was before he was bullied. I think it really took a lot out of him. I really can't believe the things that kids said and did to him. It really broke my heart. He is a really good guy!
Martha, where the heck have you been?
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Old 04-07-2009, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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It's a long story, but basically, my son came down with ALL, my daughter was born, we are selling our house and just moved into a really nice 3 level apartment! Oh and I've been going to school full time too! How are you doing?
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Old 04-07-2009, 02:52 PM
 
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It's a long story, but basically, my son came down with ALL, my daughter was born, we are selling our house and just moved into a really nice 3 level apartment! Oh and I've been going to school full time too! How are you doing?
In other words, you've had all the free time in the world. What's ALL?
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Old 04-07-2009, 03:14 PM
 
Location: CITY OF ANGELS AND CONSTANT DANGER
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i think there is a difference between laughing with and laughing at.

its seems most people here got laughed at, and if you ask these people i dont think they would consider any of their tormentors friends.

also, not all guys bully. yes we men do joke around quite a bit, particulalry in homosocial environments like boarding or all-boys schools, in the army, at the frathouse, etc, but there is a line between what is bullying and what is joking/fun.

where im from there werent really bullies. there was no ganging up on people. thats not how we did things. it was either one on one, or a rumble.

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geez, i was bullied now and then but nothing seriously long because a fight happened one way or the other. but all guys bully each other all the time. friends do it too. that's what men do, we poke fun at each other and it starts at a young age.
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Old 04-07-2009, 05:02 PM
 
Location: VA
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OK, I have one. When I was a freshmen in high school, I sat with my freshmen friends in lunch. Well, one group was throwing crap at my friends. They didn't say anything and neither did I... till some hard candy hit the back of my head. I picked it up, faced who was throwing stuff at us, saw it was the giant of the school (he was around 6ft, 180lbs or so while I was 5'6 and 120lbs), and threw it back at him. Now, it's WHERE I threw it that saved my life. I threw the candy at his belly to avoid the rage of what could've been. He stood up, got in my face, and a security guy walked by us. I thanked my lucky stars and became invisible for a few days. No damage (physically or emotionally).

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As unpopular as this may be, I told my kids they are never to start a fight but I expect them to finish it...
My mom told my brother and me the same thing. It's good advice.
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Thats ok though....me and my friends ganged up on them, and set their butts in one too! Not the big one though.
LOL
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Old 04-07-2009, 06:48 PM
 
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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Aww, that is sad I agree children can be very cruel.
NO animal can be more cruel to its own kind than the human being. Not just children.

I don't even want to talk about the bullying I went through in high school, it's too painful, even to this day. But when invitations were sent out for my first high school reunion, I wrote and told them never, ever send me another invitation. I told them the wrong person was bullied, I never forgive and never forget.

I read the book on the bullied kid in Pearl, Mississippi who went on a shooting rampage there some years ago, and I so identified with him. I hold the school responsible for those killings, anyone with eyes and ears in that school should have seen how tortured that kid was. After reading that book, I am so thankful my parents never owned a gun.

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Old 04-07-2009, 07:12 PM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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I was pretty small in middle school, and got to the age where I started getting picked on. My dad said, "You know what? All you need to do is get in one good punch, and they'll leave you alone. Because bullies are really p*ssies who are looking for easy targets."

So, one day, after school, this kid name Benny started in on me, and I actually pulled the "Hey, Benny, how many fingers am I holding up?" trick, and landed a savage haymaker on his nose. I then sat on his chest like Ralphie in "A Christmas Story" and beat the absolute crap out of him--while his friends looked on. I finally got off him and said, "God, you're stupid." Nobody ever picked on me again.
Good on ya! (I know, violence isn't the way!)
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Old 04-07-2009, 07:51 PM
 
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NO animal can be more cruel to its own kind than the human being. Not just children.

I don't even want to talk about the bullying I went through in high school, it's too painful, even to this day. But when invitations were sent out for my first high school reunion, I wrote and told them never, ever send me another invitation. I told them the wrong person was bullied, I never forgive and never forget.

I read the book on the bullied kid in Pearl, Mississippi who went on a shooting rampage there some years ago, and I so identified with him. I hold the school responsible for those killings, anyone with eyes and ears in that school should have seen how tortured that kid was. After reading that book, I am so thankful my parents never owned a gun.
I have no respect for those idiots who take out people in schools including innocent ones,if your bullied punch someobdy in the face or somethign even take a bat a and try to break their legs but to kill numerous people over it is awful and an even more cowardly act..
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Old 04-07-2009, 08:06 PM
 
Location: Westchester County
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I was bullied in Junior High School, and I hated every moment of it. The only satisfaction I got was finding out one of my tormentors became a drug addict. I saw him in the street begging for cash and I started a conversation with him, and just as he asked me for money I reminded him of all of the terrible things he did and I told him the only way I would loan him the cash was if he could guarantee me that the next hit he took would cause him to OD. I know its a cruel thing to say, but how often are you in the position to get back at someone like that? I had to take advantage.
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