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Old 10-30-2009, 01:55 AM
 
Location: NM
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What my kids do, reflect on myself.

I demand and get respect and quiet from my kids when I call for it. With that being said, my children (2 of them) can be kids and be loud when its allowed. They bicker and fight like normal kids and are grounded when its called for.


Being a mother--- being around people that do not like kids makes my family very uneasy.

People that "do not like kids" really need to understand that MOST kids are not what they see that sticks out in their minds.

Just think of most kids as "You get what you put in".

Over all people who do not like kids---- then meet some well behaved ones seem to not feel so "ICK" afterwards

 
Old 10-30-2009, 07:48 AM
 
Location: Colorado Springs, CO
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I did not have children but I like children. The two are usally confused by those who don't know me. People usually assume that if you don't have children - you don't like them.

I like children but I've found very few good parents in my life. The children who behave badly have not usually been taught good manners or how to treat people. If a child is raised to think they have no boundaries they tend to be terrible children - and worse adults! The sad thing is that it's not the child's fault they didn't have parents that took the time to teach them how to be caring. I see the problem only becoming worse. When was the last time you have been enchanted by a child who said "please", "thank you", or "I'm pleased to meet you." I am lucky to have a few such children in my life and it's wonderful. Their future is bright.
Cheers.
 
Old 10-30-2009, 09:21 AM
 
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I think people WITH children aren't very nice. I was sitting outside in the street smoking a cigarette and some mom with her daughter shot me a dirty look when she passed me. Another who was coming down the street crossed the street, went infront of me and then crossed back to my side.

WTF? I'm outside!
 
Old 10-30-2009, 09:24 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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I think people WITH children aren't very nice. I was sitting outside in the street smoking a cigarette and some mom with her daughter shot me a dirty look when she passed me. Another who was coming down the street crossed the street, went infront of me and then crossed back to my side.

WTF? I'm outside!
The dirty look was uncalled for, but I don't see the problem with avoiding your smoke.
 
Old 10-30-2009, 09:24 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Are people who dislike children generally 'not very nice?'


Have you met most people's children?

Seriously, though...I don't like most people's children because they haven't bothered to raise them right. There are some kids I have met that I completely adore.
 
Old 10-30-2009, 10:43 AM
 
Location: Prescott Valley, Az (unfortunately still here)
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I love children and always have. But I just don't want any of my own. I don't mind babysitting and stuff like that, but not permanently. I like my freedom a lot and I like being spontaneous and not have to live on a schedule 24/7 either (I do at work, but that's enough for me, you know).

But I do love children.
 
Old 10-30-2009, 10:47 AM
 
Location: Prescott Valley, Az (unfortunately still here)
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I did not have children but I like children. The two are usally confused by those who don't know me. People usually assume that if you don't have children - you don't like them.

I like children but I've found very few good parents in my life. The children who behave badly have not usually been taught good manners or how to treat people. If a child is raised to think they have no boundaries they tend to be terrible children - and worse adults! The sad thing is that it's not the child's fault they didn't have parents that took the time to teach them how to be caring. I see the problem only becoming worse. When was the last time you have been enchanted by a child who said "please", "thank you", or "I'm pleased to meet you." I am lucky to have a few such children in my life and it's wonderful. Their future is bright.
Cheers.

I'm the same way. I don't have any, but I do love being around kids (I act like a kid myself when I'm around them). And some people think I don't like children just because I don't have any.

And I guess that's why it's hard to find female friends to be with because they only like hanging out with other women who have children also. Which I believe isn't fair and such at times. I think it's a little too "picky" on their part.

But I've seen people who have kids, that I believe shouldn't have had them. They abuse them, talk to their kids like a dog, and just let their kids run around and scream everywhere they go in public. That is just no control and they have no control on their children. That's ashame.
 
Old 10-30-2009, 10:49 AM
 
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I find kids annoying in general. I have my 2 grandchildren (ages 2 & 6) living with us right now, and boy do they cramp my life. I love them, but......I can't do anything by myself without them constantly getting in my way, touching my things, interrupting me, and just getting into stuff that causes trouble. I spend most of my time reprimanding them, so I ask you, where is the joy of being of being a grandparent??? I know I don't get any. I pray for the time when my step-daughter takes the kids somewhere overnight just so I can get some freakin' peace !!! My entire life revolves around them now, and it's getting on my nerves !!@@!!!! Grand-daughter has a major stubborn streak, and grandson is ADHD. I don't like taking care of them at all, but I do it because they need me. My life is not my own anymore. If this is being selfish, well, I guess I am going to hell.
It sounds more like your step daughter is the problem...why is she living with you and has children of her own?
 
Old 10-30-2009, 10:51 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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They would appear to take more patience than I have to offer, and seem less wise than I want to deal with.

Unfortunately, the same criteria applies just as easily to adults that I haven't wanted to deal with.
 
Old 10-30-2009, 10:55 AM
 
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They would appear to take more patience than I have to offer, and seem less wise than I want to deal with.

Unfortunately, the same criteria applies just as easily to adults that I haven't wanted to deal with.
Haha! Soooo true! My kids are more sophisticated and wise than most adults I encounter...and they are probably the same adults who call parents ugly names and complain about children
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