to predict future behavior, look to past behavior

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by marilyn220

but people DO and CAN change as they get older

Yes, we do. Usually for the worse.

[marilyn220]

Originally Posted by reed067

Dr Phil??? Really???

There's really one thing that he's said that holds true:

"You teach people how to treat you."

Regardless of how you feel about the man, this is one comment that holds a lot of TRUTH.

[exit82]

Originally Posted by valeeighty2

Once a cheater, always a cheater... I know this from personal experience...

I totally disagree- I know this from personal experience

[robertpolyglot]

Originally Posted by exit82

I totally disagree- I know this from personal experience

On cheating:
some continue being cheaters for a lifetime
others realize they need to grow up and stop doing it

[reed067]

Originally Posted by marilyn220

There's really one thing that he's said that holds true:

"You teach people how to treat you."

Regardless of how you feel about the man, this is one comment that holds a lot of TRUTH.

People are going to treat you however they want too. It's up to you if you let them get away with it or not.

[supernaut112]

Originally Posted by robertpolyglot

On cheating:
some continue being cheaters for a lifetime
others realize they need to grow up and stop doing it

Depending on the stats in the studies you read, anywhere between 40 and 70 percent of men purportedly cheat in their marriage. Women are way up there, too. Who knows what the real numbers are? I don't know if there's any way to actually conduct a study like this in which people are totally honest about their behavior. It's fair to assume that the lowest percentage you read about isn't truly reflective of reality.

That means that if you get married, there's a pretty fair chance that your spouse will inevitably cheat. It's such a crap shoot. Today, I cannot imagine a circumstance in which I'd cheat on a S.O. or spouse. The mere idea is abhorrent to me. But I could also be kidding myself, too.