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Old 01-01-2010, 01:10 PM
 
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After college I moved to a new town to start a new job, and I've been here for about a year. I told myself that I would really focus on my career, and I did, and I've done really well. All of my friends are my coworkers.

I'm bored. Sometimes I get home from work and really start to question if this is the right life for me. I use to be a musician and a martial artist from my teenage years all through college. Then my dad died, and for some reason I started taking life and career really seriously. Perhaps my music and martial arts is the past, but sometimes I really just miss it. But then again, maybe it's silly for me to go back to those things. I'm not going to be a rock star nor, Bruce Lee, but in order to get good at anything, I would have to dedicate a lot of time to it.

Did the same thing happen to you after college? I feel like I'm stuck between the college years and married life.

Somebody halp!
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Old 01-01-2010, 01:14 PM
 
Location: California
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There is no reason for you to give up the things you enjoy. Many many people play in bands who have day-jobs, and many others are active in martial arts or other activities. In a way it's good that you did take life seriously and concentrate on your job, you did well for yourself and have shown your employer what your work ethic is. But it's good to have outlets besides work and you already have two interests that you can pursue.
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Old 01-01-2010, 01:15 PM
 
Location: New York, NY
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Well, I never gave up my creative pursuits, I just figured out how to make money from them and I took a part time day job because I didn't want to completely sell out.

I'm sure you're not the only person in an office job who plays music. Why not have some jam sessions with other musicians you know? You can also continue to pursue martial arts, maybe teach kids or something.

A normal job only has you working 40 hours a week. Why not use your nights and weekends to do something you love?
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Old 01-01-2010, 02:22 PM
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same thing happened to me at first. was really focused on work, career and keeping my knowledge up to date, learning new things (im in IT).

then i realized a job is just that, a job. theres more to life then work. take up your old hobbies again even if you arent going to be a rockstar. if jamming in a garage is fun its still fun, regardless if you make it big or not.

or just find some new hobbies to explore if old ones dont appeal anymore. dont feel too bad about it most people go through this. you got dumped into the real world and no one is gonna guide you through anything like when you were younger. just takes time to figure out!
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Old 01-01-2010, 02:22 PM
 
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I think it happens to a lot of people.

It's called quarter-life crisis. I think when you're in the 20's stage, and after college, you're kind of thrust into the real world, have to get a job, have to get your own home, be more responsible, and not rely as much on your parents for stuff.

How I coped with this is seeing the good in it and being positive. OK, so I had to hold down a job, well it means I learnt to be more responsible. Being more independent meant that I am responsible for my own well-being/happiness in life, and that I should never be dependent on anybody for anything. Everybody is different, but this is what helped me at the least.
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